Accountability

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Lately I’ve seen men and women bashing on men. You’ve seen it as well I’m sure.

Man up! Stop doing this, be more of that, if only you would just “get it.”

And men, at least the one’s who do “get it,” understand that most women will avoid accountability like the plague. Can’t have it. It would mean that it is their (women’s) poor choices that got them where they are today. And it’s true. That really is why they are where they are today.

But there’s more to it than that. I’m sure that there is many factors that are way more complex than what I’m going to go into here.

We as men are partially responsible for the state of women today as well. Now we are NOT responsible for the choices that they make. That’s on them.

We ARE responsible for giving them a pass though. We are responsible for letting their poor choices slide. Women create their own bad habits and poor behaviors, but we as men are the one’s who enable those choices and behaviors by “going along to get along.”

Let’s take crime and punishment as an example.

Right now I’m seeing all sorts of women as teachers getting busted for having sex with their students. Some of these teachers aren’t bad looking, even in their mug shots. Part of me is like, “Damn, where were these teachers when I was in school?” But then the adult and potential father in me is like, “These women are predators, no different than if it was a male teacher having sex with a male or female student.”

Point is, it makes no difference as far as I’m concerned. They ARE predators. They should be punished accordingly. A male teacher convicted of having sex with a minor will get at least 5 years in prison, possibly a lot more. A woman? A year. Tops. If even that. Maybe 90 days in jail. Maybe. Probation is a definite possibility. A slap on the wrist.

I’m sure you are well aware of what I just said, but here’s where I’m going with it.

Who decides the punishment? A judge and/or jury. Usually a judge. Most judges are still men last time I checked. They are the one’s with the latitude when it comes to most sentencing.

Who wrote the laws? Again, most likely it was a man or men.

See where I’m going here?

Take it to the home for some of you. If you have kids, who are you most lenient on? Who gets the pass most often? Maybe you are truly “neutral” when it comes to punishment, and if so, good for you. But are you really? What about your spouse? Our children will test us as they are growing up, seeing where the boundaries are. Seeing what they can “get away with.”

We do it in our relationships too. I’m guilty of it. I let the girlfriend slide when it comes to many things. I’ve enabled certain bad habits because of it. I’m aware of it and I’m doing what I can to reverse it. I also know that ultimately she is responsible for her behavior. So I’ll call her out on it. The majority of the time, it works. I’m not a dick about it, I’m not a tyrant either. Just firm. I won’t budge. I won’t blink. She blinks.

I’m not bashing my own gender, god knows there’s enough of that going on in the world right now and has been for a long time. We can’t control everything someone else does, we truly can only control ourselves. But we can stop giving the women in our lives a pass all of the time. We can call them out when they do stupid shit. We can hold them accountable. We can show them through example that there are consequences for their actions and behaviors.

We can better ourselves and through our examples, we can show our women that they too, can become better.

We need to stop giving them a pass so much. We need to stop letting so many things slide. Stop being afraid of rocking the boat. Stop being afraid of upsetting the women in your life. Stop being afraid that she’ll “hold out” on you, that you won’t get the golden pussy.

She may get pissed at you, probably will. She may even leave you. That’s a total possibility. She’ll probably respect you more though, and if not, well, to me, the writing is on the wall.

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