Servant Leaders

Ah “Servant Leaders…” Those guys who tell you that in order to be a leader, you must “serve” first and foremost.

Go on, lad, bend the knee.

Everybody has a system or an idea that they want to pitch and sell to you. They want your time, your money, and in their own way, they want you to bend the knee to them.

All religions do this. The State does this. Anyone telling you otherwise is lying to you. Even I’m doing it to you right now as you read this. I’m wanting you to NOT bend the knee to me, but to only bend it for yourself, when it benefits you. Stay sharp, stay alert. Stay focused. Use your critical thinking skills. Realize that damn near everyone “out there” has an agenda.

These agendas may not be “negative” per se, but they are agendas nonetheless. The question is, does their agenda benefit you? If so, great. If not, why should you bend the knee to it? Again, what’s in it for you?

I got pitched an agenda a few days before New Year’s on Twitter. I was told that there was a solution to our modern problems. Would I support it?

I asked, “What’s in it for me?”

You want me to kiss a new ring, which is really the old ring. You want me to swear loyalty and fealty to your “new way” which in the end, is just the old way.

“We will get rid of divorce,” they said.

“Okay, what else?”

“You can’t have it both ways,” they said.

“I understand what you are saying, but what is in it for me?”

“We’ll get rid of the drag-queen show in schools,” they said.

“That is irrelevant to me, for I have no children of my own, and I don’t care about your children.” I said. “Again, what is in it for me? Here is a serious question for you, can I have multiple wives?”

“No. Monogamy is what we are offering.”

“Then you have nothing to offer me, for I already have multiple women in my life who understand that I am non-exclusive and non-monogamous. Why would I choose just one when I can have many?”

The new crown is the old crown, without even a new veneer. Religion has nothing new to offer me. No new answers, no actionable solutions, just more bend the knee. Thank you, but I’ll pass.

From my blog post New Years 2020

A guy brags about doing the laundry or doing the dishes. He’s a leader, just ask him.

A guy nuts in a woman and knocks her up, so he’s an “alpha male!” He’s got a legacy!

Dude, let me get this straight, you got a woman to spread her legs for you, you came inside her, and she got pregnant and gave birth to a child. Welcome to what humanity has been doing since the beginning of time. Congratulations, you are the baseline. Sit down.

A guy takes a photo of his newborn children and posts it on Twitter for all the world to see. That’s not a publicity stunt! He was “genuinely and authentically” showing you how happy he is now that he’s a Dad.

But like the proverbial question about trees falling in the forest, but if no one is around to hear it, did it make a sound? If you don’t post the birth of your children on the internet, did it really happen? And more importantly, are you even a “Real Dad?”

If you don’t proclaim your undying faith to a deity and advertise that fact in your bio, are you even a “Real Christian/Muslim, etc?”

These people are no better than the “pronoun people.”

What are these “Servant Leaders” offering you except more bending of the knee?

Like my quote above, from New Years 2020 no less, what’s in it for you?

Remember, you are not a “real man” unless… (Insert whatever he or she has as the list of requirements.) Or, only a “real man” would/does/has… (Insert that list of requirements again.)

Swap out “real man” for “masculine man,” “masculinity,” whatever, and it’s the same thing.

It’s more hoops for you to jump through. It’s more bullshit for you to achieve. It’s more nonsense that benefits someone else at your expense. It’s another way to keep a boot on your neck and nothing more. Keep that in mind.

Feminism isn’t the only “enemy,” guys. Traditional Conservatives want to put a boot on your neck and keep you on a leash just as bad as feminists, the only difference is the “TradCons” will pretend that they are your friends. They aren’t.

“Servant Leaders” are nothing more than men (usually) who are bending the knee and want you to bend the knee too. “Be like me! It worked for me!”

I’m personally choosing the “Path of the Adversary” on this one.

I bend the knee to no man, no woman, and no deity.

I only reluctantly bend the knee to the State, and that’s only because the State has the ability to exert force upon me. The State is the only entity that can kill or imprison me. Anything else is bullshit.

Remember this:

The “Right Wing” is no better than the “Left Wing.” Both “sides” are of the same coin. Both want to keep you in shackles. Both want to keep you on a leash and put a boot heel to the back of your neck. Neither “side” cares about you. All they care about is what you can do for them. Once your usefulness is over, you will be discarded. You’re cannon fodder to them and nothing more.

Dads approval

‘You’re not a man if you retire your parents!’ -Some dips hit online

First off: I wanted my dad’s approval so bad when I was young. I craved him to tell me he was proud.

It was cringe, it was unnecessary and it wasn’t productive and it sure as hell didn’t get me what I want.

Yet here we are on twitter where grown adults still hunger for that pat on the back they never got from dad and hoping to receive it from the audience.

Spoiler alert: You won’t get it.

Dad was at work, out fishing, grabbing a pack of smokes, just getting drunk at the bar avoiding your nagging mom or just sitting in his chair reading covered up porn magazines and here you are crushing it and dad still looks at you like you aren’t shit.

He probably never got the approval from his dad and now he’s not giving his to you.

“Suck it, kid!”

Now does this sound like a man who’s approval you even want?

What about your approval of yourself?

Ever thought of that?

Is the man who’s approval you want so bad someone who you approve of? 

But hey, you get dumped, found out you never had a father figure and here’s someone telling you to clean your room or telling you that dad is god in the house and honor him no matter what and you need to give up your life like he did.

So you start making millions and brag about it online to all your surrogate daddies.

That’ll show him!

How about you stop caring what dad thinks and instead of being in dad’s frame you start making your own?

How about, instead of retiring your parents, you ask why they never got their shit together and now have to rely on you and thus cheers on the shaming tactics cause by god do they suit their cause!

And chanting those same shaming tactics will get you that fatherless crowd cheering you on cause by god that will show dad!

Look at me I’m retiring my parents! Dad sure as hell is proud of me!

Beauty VS Hotness

I can remember having an almost identical discussion with guys I knew when I was younger. “Which do you want/prefer? Beauty? Or Hotness? Ah those were the days. The days of asking questions that were fun, and it seemed like they were important back then. The debates over what defined “beauty” vs “hotness,” and why which one was better than the other.

I see that Thomas Crown is on a trophy hunt, at least on the internet.

Here’s my understanding of “Hotness:” She’s sexy, healthy, has a great body, and you would definitely bang. But…

You may or may not want to take her home to meet your parents, or your boss, co-workers, friends, or anyone else in your social circle. I have seen plenty of women who are in the “adult entertainment industry,” and make no mistake, they are “hot.” Maybe it’s the lights, filters, makeup, or the boob job, but they are “hot” nonetheless. I would definitely bang.

Now “beauty” is a little less specific. I do believe that all beautiful woman are hot, but not all hot women are beautiful. But in my particular case, it all comes down to “would.”

I “would bang” a hot woman. I “would bang” a beautiful woman. So the point here is kind of moot. We are talking about splitting hairs and counting the number of angels that could dance on the head of a pin.

I don’t think that my experiences with women have “jaded” me, and I don’t believe it’s my notch count. So maybe it’s my age. Somewhere after the age of 30 or so, I stopped thinking about “beauty vs hotness” and started thinking in terms of “would or would not.” Since both beautiful women and hot women fall under the category of “would,” who cares if they are beautiful or hot? I’m not here to collect trophies to show off to the world anymore. I’m here for the experiences and for my own personal amusement, entertainment, and pleasure.

If I “would,” then she is enough. I guess she is “hot and/or beautiful” to me. And that’s good enough for me. She might have qualities beyond her looks that warrant a visit to my friends and father to introduce her to them. She’s now a part of my life to one degree or another, might as well do the rounds and let her meet those closest to me. Then again, maybe all she has is her looks. Yes I “would,” but maybe I “wouldn’t” introduce her to the people that are closest to me.

Midlife summed it up beautifully.

I have less time ahead of me than I have behind me. My days of questioning and quibbling over the nuances of beauty and hotness are all but behind me. I personally think the question is just mental masturbation, and a way of signaling that you or whoever is asking the question is “trophy hunting.” And there’s nothing wrong with that.

If you want to find a woman that looks good on your arm (and who doesn’t?) to show off to your friends and family, then good for you. Just realize that is what you are trying to achieve. Let me ask you this though:

Why do you care what other people think about the woman or women that are with you? If you like her and are aroused by her, isn’t that what ultimately matters?

Like BullRush said a while back: “If she gets my dick hard, she’s a 10.”

While we can claim that beauty can be “objective,” I tend to think that it’s primarily subjective. Sure, we can all agree that one woman is better looking than another woman, and that she is someone that we all “would.” But from there, some guys are going to see her as something potentially “serious,” while another man is going to see her as “a night of fun, and nothing more.”

Instead of focusing on arbitrary and subjective standards such as the “HB Scale,” or “Beauty vs Hotness,” how about you decide is she someone you “would,” or is she someone you “would not?” And then act accordingly.

Maybe I’m just getting old. Or maybe it’s because I would rather have experiences and enjoy the company of women. I tend to focus on what brings me pleasure instead of worrying about the details of things that ultimately don’t matter.

So yes, my “scale” is ultimately two tier:

Would

Or

Would Not.

That’s it, that’s the scale.

I’ll leave the details to be fretted about, hashed over, and jerked off about to the guys who have the time and the concern for trivialities.