Before I get to the heart of the matter today, I’ve got something I want to touch on briefly. I’ve been thinking about all the bullshit that I have seen in the “Manosphere” for awhile now. I’ve been a part of this “thing” since about late 2017 or early 2018. What goes around, comes around. The only thing that I have come to the conclusion is that the “Manosphere” isn’t a “gay nightclub,” which is what a lot of guys jokingly referred to it as. No, it’s a “gay monastery.”
Nowhere else outside of a Bishop’s office (Mormon church for those who are wondering) have I encountered so many men who are worried about what other men are doing, or not doing with their dicks. (Porn “addiction.”) Here’s your “gay” part of the equation. Whatever another man does or doesn’t do with his dick is none of my business. I don’t want to know and I don’t care.
Now on to the “monastery” part. Nowhere outside of social media have I encountered so many guys jumping through hoops, throwing out copes, and doing everything in their power to not get laid. Semen retention, sunning your asshole, taking cold showers, drinking black coffee, and doing TRT is just a few examples. Guys, if you haven’t had sex in over a year, it’s a choice.
It’s far too easy to get laid today. You can thank feminism for that. It’s far easier for me to get laid in today’s world than it was when I was in my 20’s. I’m now 50. You all know I’m short, bald, don’t have six pack abs, and I don’t have “bank.” But I know how to banter and flirt with women and it doesn’t bother me if and when they reject me. Seriously guys, I’m average at best. And yet I’m having sex with 20 something’s all the way up to women in their 50’s. I’m seeing women from different countries, backgrounds, and cultures. Thank god for the internet and online dating.
Guys. Seriously. If I can do this, you can too.
Which brings me to today’s heart of the matter.
Look at the screen shot that I posted at the beginning of this article. Read it and then read it again. Don’t worry, I’ll wait.
You back? Good.
Where in that screen shot did that woman mention money? Other than the guy that haunts her pussy and her dreams keeps his salary in a shoebox and doesn’t pay taxes, it sounds like he doesn’t have much money. And yet she keeps dwelling on him. Her description of him is hyperbolic and extreme for sure and I imagine that she is exaggerating to one degree or another, and yet, it’s also oddly specific.
I’ve had zero women care about my money or the lack of it. Zero. Zilch. Zip. Nada. None. Not a one. You don’t need money to be successful with women. In fact, worrying about having money to impress women is a provisioning trait. You are showing her that you would be a good provider. It’s “beta” in the land of “alpha.” It will signal stability but it won’t get her panties wet. Provisioning doesn’t induce “the tingles.” Worst case scenario, it will attract “gold diggers.”
If you lead with money, don’t be surprised if she starts seeing you as a provider instead of a lover. Don’t be surprised if and when she wants to “make you wait” for sex. Don’t be surprised if she starts sizing you up as “husband material.” Don’t be surprised if she’s only interested in you for your money if you start off with flashing cash or your bitcoin portfolio or buying her dinner.
Jack Napier did an interview a while back with a “PUA” who literally was living out of a van. The guy was getting more ass than a toilet seat. He’s literally the guy in that screen shot. And speaking of Jack Napier, I have a treat for you all. Jack is going to be joining me here on my blog from time to time as he has expressed an interest in doing some writing. So not only will you be getting stuff from me, but you’ll be getting stuff from Jack on occasion. So stay tuned for that. I don’t know about you, but I’m excited about his debut here.
“You need to stack cash, brah.”
But to what end? Why are you “stacking cash?” As men, we don’t need or want for much as far as survival goes. We don’t need a lot of money to do the things we like to do. We don’t tend to buy a lot of shit and making memories is either cheap or free if you know what you are doing.
So why “stack cash?”
For the women.
It’s one of the ways that we signal our value to them. It’s also a provisioning signal. Keep that in mind.
What do you want to be? A lover? Or a provider? There is a world of difference between the two.