Fort Worth Playboy on Twitter brought up something really interesting a while back and I’ll be damned if I can’t find the original tweet, but he basically said that the “average” guy who worked a physical job doesn’t have a lot of time and/or energy to be out day gaming or out in the bars at night, which is why they typically meet women through online dating.
I’m here to confirm that. I’m not saying don’t learn to approach women on the streets or in the bars/night clubs. You’ll usually get better looking women doing those things. I’m all for learning game and how to approach women on the street. Being bold and walking up to women and talking to them takes guts and most women have hardly ever had a man do that to them. It can put them in a tailspin for sure. So learn game. Be willing to take risks and get rejected and learn to approach women on the street, in the grocery store, at the bar, etc.
When your life can be as busy as mine and you work long ass hours though, what to do? I still want feminine company, I still like and want sex. So, what to do? I don’t have a large social circle, most of the guys I know in real life are either married with children, doing the “happy wife, happy life” scene, or they are almost completely clueless. I don’t date co-workers because I don’t want to “shit where I eat,” and there aren’t a lot of women in my line of work. And the couple we do have? They are already taken or they are… *shudders* Let’s just say there isn’t enough alcohol in the world that would get me to a place where I could look at them and say to myself, “Yeah, she’s cute enough, she’ll do.” So again, what to do?
Online dating of course.
I have talked about online dating in the past. Nothing has changed there. I’ve even mentioned what the different body types in online dating actually mean. Nothing has changed there either. Nothing has really changed at all, but I want to share a couple of things with you so that you’ll understand the mindset that I have when it comes to online dating.
Online dating is like fishing. You set up your profile, put up some pictures of yourself, put out a little “bio” about who and what you are, set preferences, etc and there you are. That’s your hook, line, reel, and bait.
I tend to start swiping right off the bat. If she’s attractive to me, I swipe right, click yes, etc. Otherwise it’s a no for me. I don’t bother with her location, her age, height, weight, kids or not, or anything in her bio, if she even has one. I can burn through 100 profiles in under an hour doing this. Then I get off the dating app and get back to life. Oh, and then there’s the one’s that will open you, but I’ll be coming back to this one shortly.
Inevitably, one or more of those swipes is going to match. Call it luck of the draw, law of averages, whatever you want. That’s when I’ll go back and look at the details. How far is she from me? Kids? Smokes? Drinks? Height? Weight? What she has to say about herself in her “bio?” All those things. If a bunch of red flags turn up there, mostly too far away, too many kids, too fat, or too bitchy, I’ll un-match and move on to the next one. If there’s nothing there that turns me off, I’ll start the banter. Then I’ll wait and see what if anything, happens there. Sometimes they hook and the texting takes off and sometimes it goes absolutely nowhere.
The main point I want to emphasize is that like a fisherman, you need to have patience. As of this writing, I have talked to no less than 8 women. That’s all in the last two weeks. 2 of them I have met for drinks, one I was supposed to meet and she flaked, a couple of others are still in the text/talk phase, and a couple are going nowhere fast.
Between work, my shows I do with Nick, Bull, Joe, and Jack, plus wanting “me” time to read, write, drink, and fucking sleep, I don’t have a ton of time to be bullshitting with the babes.
Part of that patience is also realizing that you’ll have “feast or famine” times. There’s been times in my past where I could “cast my line” and get nothing for literally months on end. Then out of nowhere, I get matches and women opening me and opportunities galore to the point that I can’t keep up with them. If I wanted to try that I would have to quit my job and just focus on pussy. So learn to have patience. In many ways, when it comes to online dating, you are playing a somewhat “long game.”
As a final thought: I have seen guys recently who have said some incredibly dense and stupid shit about how if a woman opens you, it’s “masculine.” Bullshit. It’s practically a done deal is what it is. She’s fucking interested, stupid. Don’t step on your own dick. The last women to open me, I have seen her a couple of times, she actually looks better in real life than she does in her pictures, and she hasn’t ghosted or flaked. She’s interested.
Do you know what types of women I find interesting and attractive? Women that are interested and attracted to me.
Learn patience and don’t step on your own dick.