Author: Rob Says

A man who loves and likes women.

A “Real Man”

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Taken from men and women on Twitter:

A “Real Man”:

Will stay with you.

Will help you without asking for sex.

Wears pink.

Would stand up to (insert whatever here).

Will make sure you’re good.

Will help her heal.

Pleases me from head to toe.

Can wash the dishes and cut the grass.

Won’t put you in any type of position to make you look stupid.

Doesn’t love a thousand girls. He loves one girl in a thousand ways.

Doesn’t torture lost souls, but saves them.

Doesn’t make a woman cry tears of sadness, but rather joy.

Can wait for the girl he loves.

Never dates 100 women, he makes 99 women jealous of his one “Queen.”

Doesn’t put his hands on a woman.

Gives his lady the attention she deserves, gives her all of his love, calls her beautiful and treats her like a queen.

It takes a real man to embrace his feelings

If a real man loves you he won’t be confused with his feelings if another woman jumps in.

Has his shit together.

Knows one woman is enough.

Knows how a woman needs to be taken care of.

Takes care of others before himself.

Will treat you with respect, love, and honesty. And take care of their partner in every way.

When a real man loves you he’ll do anything and everything for you.

Isn’t worried about quantity but quality.

Doesn’t discuss his woman’s flaws.

Know how to treat women with respect they deserve.

Handles his business.

Takes care of his family.

Will never stop supporting his women.

Listens intently to her wild thoughts.

Always takes care of business, even when times get rough, and minds his own business.

Knows when to apologize.

Will buy you shit without fucking.

Only lies to his woman if it involves surprising her.

Doesn’t play games.

Is an authentic man.

Has nothing to hide. He tells the truth about anything you want to know.

Gives his woman his bank card.

Provides.

Will respect you. Even on bad terms.

Eats his woman any time of the month.

Is reliable and knows what true love is.

Can marry a single mother.

Who loves you will stay for you, will always listen to you, and will always understand you.

Will love you for your heart, your bare face without makeup, and all your flaws.

Will reach out and thank his enemy.

Keeps his word.

Makes every day Valentine’s Day for his girl.

Will love everything you dislike about yourself.

Keeps his word no matter the circumstances or the situation.

It takes a real man to love someone else’s child.

Will eat anything a woman sets before him.

Understands that sex isn’t everything when it comes to satisfying a lady, comforting her, appreciating her, respecting her, and taking care of her emotionally.

Marries for the future, not for the present.

Is not afraid of standards.

Won’t care about your past.

Doesn’t ask for help. He would rather die.

Does what is expected of him.

Doesn’t care.

Will appreciate every inch of you. He will never get tired of you.

Will be patient with you. He will understand you. He will stay and figure things out.

Will hold her hand in public, hold her purse, open doors for her, and show her respect.

Doesn’t have time to cheat because he is too busy providing all of which a good woman deserves.

Is able to hold it together when being assaulted by a woman.

Endures the blazing sun and smouldering heat with a smile.

Can handle a redhead.

Steps up.

Offers his seat.

Forgives.

Doesn’t sneak or do anything.

Does not hit women or children.

Will die for his family.

Will die for his country.

Will die defending her honor.

Loves his mother.

Defends his own.

Rises up through controversy.

Will admit when he is wrong.

Believes in our Heavenly Father.

Handles every situation with poise and grace.

Knows that a period doesn’t stop anything except a sentence.

Makes babies.

Gives her “wife treatment” from the start.

Will pay his child support for what he did.

Looks for a wife, not another girlfriend.

“Accepts me for who I am.”

Knows your worth.

Wouldn’t talk to a woman “like that.”

Never stops trying to show his girl how much she means to him. Even after he’s got her.

Supports his women financially.

Protects his partner physically and emotionally.

Protects and loves his woman for who she is.

Doesn’t need sleep.

Will take his wife shopping at a supermarket.

Will “man up” and deal with it.

Would marry that girl.

Votes for…

Knows how to wait.

Desires respect from his wife the most.

Has a conscience.

Is not defined by how many girlfriends he’s had. It’s by how many girls cried when he said, “No I’m taken, and I love her.”

Makes his woman feel like she’s the only one out there.

Has rough, scaly hands.

Protects women, even in conversation.

Doesn’t get tired of seeing his girlfriend.

Provides, protects, and always keeps his promise.

Will try and save his family, whatever the consequences.

Handles his business and doesn’t need any recognition from the world of all the hard work he does. He simply continues on and puts in work, day in and day out.

Is concerned about his country.

Doesn’t need a woman that has to be done up all the time.

Doesn’t need guns.

Will remind his woman daily why she fell in love with him.

Is not intimidated by a strong woman.

Forgives a woman for her lies.

Has no insecurity.

Sets out to please.

Will never cheat.

Just can’t deny a woman’s worth.

Is a stand up guy who is dependable, compassionate, and fearless.

Will get rid of everything and everyone that jeopardizes his relationship.

Makes sure the mother of his children isn’t stressed.

Always controls his temper.

Knows what to do during her period.

Will not end the day in a bad mood.

Knows the importance of communication.

Is not offensive or rude.

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Thin-Skinned Men

Rob Says1 Comment

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Let’s talk about “Ben, Jerry, and Trevor…..”

“Ben” and “Jerry” are a couple of guys that I work with who happen to be pranksters. These are the guys who will bust your balls, call you names to your face, hide your uniforms from you, put random shit in your locker, and even move your locker around on occasion. These two guys will do all sorts of shit to get a laugh. They are also the sort of guys that when they dish it out, you can better believe that they can take what’s coming to them.

“Trevor” on the other hand… “Trevor” is what I want to call a “Thin-Skinned” man. He likes to laugh when Ben and Jerry are doing their shenanigans, he’ll shit talk with the best of them, and he’ll even help pull off a prank if you ask him. But if you prank him, you better watch out…

Jerry had been on vacation for a week or so and when he came back, the first thing that greeted him was his locker turned around so that the back was facing him and he couldn’t get into it. (The lockers are “standalone” and can be moved easily with a dolly or a handtruck.) The moment he saw it, he blamed Ben for it. Why not? This is something that Ben is famous for doing. It’s practically his signature move.

Ben didn’t move it though. Another unrelated co-worker was the fiend who pulled off the devilish deed. Ben faked mock surprise and mock hurt, everybody had a good laugh about it, including Jerry himself, and once the locker got turned back in the right direction, everybody pretty much settled down and got down to the business of getting ready for the day’s work.

Trevor laughed along with everybody else at Jerry’s expense, and from there I was done changing from my street clothes into my uniform, and so I left the locker room and went about my day…

Later that afternoon as I came back from my route, I noticed Ben and Jerry had a locker on a hand truck and were moving it around in the warehouse. Both had ear-to-ear grins on their faces and you could hear them snickering and giggling like a couple of schoolgirls.

Ben saw that I noticed them and he started laughing even harder. “We’re moving Trevor’s locker.” He said between snickers.

“Why are you doing that?” I asked.

“Because Trevor said something to Jerry and Jerry feels a need to pay him back.” Ben said with a look of pure glee. “So we’re going to hide Trevor’s locker in the women’s restroom.”

I just shook my head and said, “That’s a bridge too far.” And away they went. I never did find out what Trevor supposedly said, nor did I care.

Why did I say what I said and why did I shake my head?

Because I know Trevor. He has a “personality type” that is thin skinned. He can dish it out, but he can’t take it back. You goof on him and he takes it personally and gets a huge case of butthurt going on. He’s the type of guy that will take your ballbusting and goofing on him as a personal attack.

I didn’t want to call Trevor a Gamma, but a Gamma he is.

In the link I just added is a list of “gamma traits.” While Trevor has a LOT of these traits, there’s one in particular that stands out in this situation:

(Bold emphasis is mine)

You can’t even take a mild ribbing about anything outside of a few harmless topics from other guys, and immediately fly into a barely controlled rage and seek some sort of vengeance if you are lampooned by anyone. This isn’t upping the competition, but hatred of the other and you will avoid that person or speak badly of them.

The next day I went back to work. Trevor is normally about 10 minutes or so behind him on clocking in. Not that day though. That day he was moments behind me. Normally Trevor is fairly high-spirited and is always cracking jokes and talking shit. That day though, he was quiet and sullen. Trevor was pissed.

I could tell he was pissed because of his entire demeanor. It was in his body language. He practically radiated anger and hate. I knew what this was about before he even said anything.

“Hey Trevor, how are ya?” I asked.

“I’m pissed Rob.”

“Oh? Why is that?”

“Because fucking Ben and Jerry moved my locker into the women’s restroom yesterday.”

“Why did they do that?”

“To get back at me.”

“For what?”

“For what happened with Jerry and his locker yesterday.”

“What happened with Jerry and his locker? What did you do?”

“I didn’t do anything except laugh. I’m going to get back at them though.”

He said all of this with a straight face.

This wasn’t going to be about “upping the competition.” This was about revenge. I’m sure that Trevor will have his “pound of flesh” too. He’s that kind of guy.

When Ben came into the lockerroom, he tried joking with Trevor, who gave him the “silent treatment,” hurried and got changed into his work uniform, and then hurried out the door to prepare his truck for the day. Ben looked at me, bewildered.

I just shook my head and said, “I told you. A bridge too far.”

“Wow, Trevor is pissed,” said Ben.

“Of course he is, what did you expect?”

The sad thing is, Ben and Jerry were just fucking around with Trevor. It was their way of ribbing him and saying that they like him, but Trevor can’t see that, or won’t see it. Now if things go the way that they could go, it’s going to turn into an escalation of arms. Trevor will “prank back” bigger and harder than Ben and Jerry did, to which those two guys will return the favor, thinking it’s all fun and games, only to Trevor it’s not.

This has the potential to get out of control and someone could end up getting hurt. I’m just going to stay out of the way and hopefully out of the blast zone when it does go down.

I’ve encountered a lot of guys over the years like Trevor. Thin-skinned gammas. I’m pretty sure you have too. Look over that list that I linked and see if there isn’t several traits that remind you of someone you know or have known.

Watch yourself around these guys. You can’t joke with them like someone who isn’t a gamma. And if you do happen to “bust their balls,” be prepared for some sort of retaliation, because it’s coming. It may not be something direct, it usually isn’t. Most gamma’s are too cowardly to come straight at you. It’ll be some form of indirect attack or a backstab. Something passive-aggressive.

You’ve been warned.

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Random Assholes On The Internet

Rob Says3 Comments

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What started out as a post on the Masculine Geek newsletter turned into a post here. I’ve fleshed it out a little bit more here, but you should go and sign up for the newsletter there if you haven’t. You’re missing out if you don’t.

Okay guys, this is a little “tongue-in-cheek,” but then again, not really.

I’m sitting here listening to a guy talk about the coronavirus while I’m typing this, wondering what the deal is with the coronavirus. Is it a big deal? Is it a “natural phenomenon?” Is it a biological weapon that got loose? I wonder if we will ever know, and does it really even matter?

Point is, the guy I’m listening to right now, I know nothing about this guy. He’s a random asshole on the internet. He mentioned his credentials, but are they real? Do they even matter? (In this particular circumstance, I would say that his credentials DO in fact matter.) Credentials can be manufactured, see “diploma mill.” Credentials can be made up with nothing but an imagination and a half decent printer, and that’s if you want to print something out and hang it on the wall. Otherwise you can keep it as a handy PDF to distribute as needed.

Most people, and I’ve been guilty of this myself, are lazy. They don’t take the time to do the research to find out if a set of credentials are in fact, legitimate. 

We live in a day and age of information overload. It’s not that there isn’t enough information available, it’s that we have too much information available. We are literally swamped with information and not all of it is accurate or even true. The internet is awesome make no doubt, but it is a double-edged sword as well. While it’s easier now than ever to “reach out and touch someone,” you need to keep in mind who some of those “someone’s” are.

I have a general rule of thumb when it comes to people on the internet, and that is, they are all “random asshole’s on the internet.” Until I meet them, preferably face-to-face, but at a bare minimum, a video call/conference, whatever you want to call it, is what is in order for me to move them from “random asshole” to something above and beyond “random asshole.”

I’ve met Vince, TJ, and Aaron face to face as well as several other guys. They aren’t random assholes. They may still be assholes, but they aren’t random anymore. They are guys who walk the walk and talk the talk. When they say something I tend to listen to them and give what they say some weight. That’s because I’ve actually gotten to know them. You should strive to do the same thing.

Even with me.

Right now, if I haven’t met you in some form, I’m just a random asshole on the internet running my mouth. I could be completely full of shit and have no idea what I’m talking about, and it would be to your detriment to take what I say and run with it.

Keep this in mind when you are dealing with anyone, especially on the internet. You don’t know them from a hole in the ground and whatever they are saying and/or selling could be complete garbage that will end up only hurting you. It’s okay to be skeptical, in fact, I consider a healthy dose of skepticism to be normal and healthy. Too many people today are far too willing and eager to jump on somebody’s bandwagon simply because that person either looked good, or they liked what they had to say.

Another thing to keep in mind:

Familiarity.

You see it all the time. Guys who are constantly posting on social media, whether it’s because that’s how they earn their living, or because they are attention seeking whores, or simply because they are bored and have nothing better to do with their lives. You see them spouting off all the time. That doesn’t mean that they know what they are talking about. However, you get comfortable seeing them running their mouths. You get used to them, they become a part of the background of your daily routine. And then they say or do something that grabs your attention. Maybe you liked what they said or did. Next thing you know, you’re buying their program and repeating their mantras and you became one of their biggest fans.

That’s all well and good if what you are getting from them is good for you and you are getting value out of it. But then again, maybe it’s not good for you, but you are too close to it to see it. You can’t see the forest because of all the trees. You’ve become too invested.

While familiarity can breed contempt, it can also breed comfort. Many affairs start out in the workplace simply because of proximity, common goals, and familiarity. There’s a certain level of comfort there and arousal can be generated from it.

The guy spouting off all the time on the internet can be creating that sense of comfort and familiarity as well. Maybe it’s intentional, maybe not, but you need to be aware of it and keep it in mind when dealing with them.

It’s easy to want to take short-cuts in our thinking. We do it all the time. In fact, if we had to critically think about every single thing that we want to do, we would either end up completely exhausted from just getting out of bed and using the bathroom in the morning, or we would probably end up going crazy. It’s easy to listen to someone that actually knows what they are talking about because they have proven it time and time again. Nothing wrong with that.

It’s also easy to take that short-cut and hand it off to some random person on the internet simply because they are saying what we want to hear or because they dress a certain way, or because we consider them attractive. Or because they remind us of someone that we like and trust. These are the times that we really need to slow down and use our critical thinking skills and say to ourselves, “Hey, this is just some random asshole on the internet. Maybe I need to look into this some more before going all in.”

Better that way than learning the lesson the hard way.

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