Stay Out Of My Bedroom

February 8, 2021 Rob Says1 Comment

Originally I wasn’t going to write a post for this Monday, and that’s because I haven’t been on social media much this last week or this last weekend. I’ve been busy working on “remastering” my audio podcasts. And when I got home from hanging out with Teriyaki this morning, I opened Twitter and the above screenshot was one of the first things that I saw, and here we are.

I tweeted about a week ago, and in that tweet I said, “Trads AND the Rainbow Brigade need to stay the fuck out of my bedroom.” That tweet ties into the screenshot as well.

I’ve realized that the “Manosphere” has morphed over the years and it has morphed into something that I think is a waste of time. “Back in the good old days,” the ‘Sphere was something that came about for men to get together to learn from each other about how to get laid. Even at the tender age of 49 years old, I’m not a complete master at getting laid and so I’m always interested in what someone else can teach me when it comes to this particular subject. I’m all for improving my Game and getting better at getting laid more often and faster.

Nowadays the ‘Sphere has morphed into two major factions, that being guys who are still interested in getting pussy, and everybody else. The everybody else is there to primarily shame guys into living a lifestyle that may not be for that guy that is being shamed.

“If you don’t fuck the way I do, you are doing it wrong.”

“If you fuck anyway other than missionary and only for procreational purposes, you are a bad, evil, degenerate man.”

“If you won’t fuck somebody who used to be a man, you are transphobic.”

“If you fuck anybody outside of an approved age group, (MY approved age group) you are a pervert.”

Lots of morality being tossed around as if it has any worth to me.

The whole lot of you need to mind your own business and stay the fuck out of my bedroom. What I do in there and with whom I do it is none of your business. This is my biggest gripe when it comes to both the Trad side of things as well as the Rainbow Brigade. Both sides are basically telling me I’m doing it “wrong,” because I’m not doing it their way.

Learning game, pick up, seduction, whatever you want to call it, is an amoral skill. Seduction itself is amoral. It simply IS. You either learn to seduce or you don’t, and if you don’t do it, someone else will, and you’ll be the one left out in the cold with your dick in your hand. Literally.

Who cares if a “party girl who sleeps around” can become a great housewife or not? Why would you want to get married in today’s day and age anyway? The screenshot is one of morality, not one of skill or ability. What defines a “great housewife” anyways? I’ll go ahead and answer that question for shits and giggles though:

Question: Can a party-girl who “sleeps around a lot” become a great housewife or partner for the right guy?

Simple answer: You already answered the question dude, and that answer is yes. I believe any woman can “change her evil ways” for “the right guy.” But that’s the simple, throwaway answer that looks great in a tweet.

The real answer: It depends. It depends on a whole host of factors that could take volumes to write about, think about, and are going to be fairly complex. I could probably write a 1000 page book on whether a “party girl” turned “good girl” would actually be a “good girl” and in the end she may or may not actually become that said “good girl.” But I’m not going to write that book because it wouldn’t apply to all women, just to one or two particular women that I would have to know in real life, not digital pixels on the internet.

Basically the question being asked is nonsense and nothing more than mental masturbation with a side of morality thrown in. The question doesn’t matter really, because it’s not useful. The question doesn’t teach me anything about getting better with Game or getting laid. It doesn’t teach me anything useful when it comes to dating or relationships. It doesn’t teach me how to have a relationship, if that was what I was looking for, it only asks if you the reader thinks that a hoe can be turned into a housewife.

I have seen a lot of guys masquerading as “players” in the ‘Sphere in recent times. Guys who are claiming that they either want or know how to Game women. Supposed “degenerates” that are turning out to be nothing more than Trad 2.0 when it comes down to it. I’m tired of people shoving their morality down my throat. Stay the fuck out of my bedroom.

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Are They Banging?

February 3, 2021January 28, 2022 Rob Says3 Comments

A few days ago, Rollo was out and about with some people and he took the above picture and then asked Twitter, “Are they banging?” He’s referring to the woman and the man in the background in case there is any wonder or confusion.

I’ve seen guys over the years post pictures similar to this one, asking questions like:

“Is this alpha? Is this beta? Are they a couple? What do you think is going on here?” And many more.

Let’s take a look at some of the replies to this tweet:

And the list goes on and on and on… Lots of “Yes they are banging,” and a lot of “No, they aren’t.” Lot of why the person replying thinks they are banging or not. On Twitter, everybody is a fucking expert when it comes to body language and motive.

There was one reply in particular that really stood out to me though, and I think it is by far the most accurate one of them all:

“We don’t know.”

That’s right, we don’t know. We don’t know if they are banging or not. Maybe this is a father/daughter moment.

And when it comes to her legs being crossed:

Women are incredibly aware of their surroundings. She’s wearing a short skirt, for whatever reason. Maybe she just likes short skirts? She’s sitting on a tall chair at a tall table, her entire body is exposed to the world. Women know when they are wearing something that could reveal the color of their underwear, or the fact that they aren’t wearing any at all.

While we are playing amateur psychologist/psychic, let’s talk about something some of the replies are showing. Projection.

Good grief.

“Bitter, party of one. Bitter, party of one. Your table is ready.”

And to round it out, a woman decided to join in on the fun as well. I happen to like her reply:

The honest to god truth to Rollo’s question is: “We don’t know.” We don’t know if they are banging or not. This is a snapshot of a moment in time. We know nothing about this couple other than they are most likely a man and a woman.

If we are going to be honest, we need more information. Was Rollo there before they showed up? Did they leave before he did? Only Rollo can answer those questions. It would have been better to have video footage of this scene to come to a better conclusion. It would have been ideal to have filmed them from the time they entered and sat down to the time they got up and left. It would have been better to have overheard their conversation. Hell, it would have been great if Rollo had gotten up, walked over to them and asked them, “Are you guys banging?” I imagine that he didn’t.

I don’t mind these tweets when they pop up and sometimes it’s blatantly obvious if the people in the photo “are banging” or not. But in this particular case, as with the great majority of the ones that I have seen on Twitter, the only honest answer is, “We don’t know.”

Guys, realize that a picture is just that. A picture. It’s a brief moment in time that happened to be captured. By itself it is useless. You need more information and you need more context. Stop playing amateur armchair psychologist. Stop pretending that you truly understand body language. Just because a person folds their arms or crosses their legs doesn’t mean anything by itself. Stop reading into things that you know nothing about. Unless you were there, watching and talking to the people in the photo, you really have no idea of what is going on. Not even an “educated guess.” Just pulling shit right out of your ass is all you are doing. You need the context and you need more information. All you end up doing in cases like this is you look like an idiot.

While these photos and short snippets of video are fun to look at, that’s all they are. Fun, and nothing more. Keep that in mind.

Let me show you one last photo and ask you the same question that Rollo did.

“Are they banging?”

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“Social Proof”

February 1, 2021June 11, 2022 Rob Says2 Comments

It all starts with this screen shot from Rian Stone:

“Most things guys think they are doing to attract women actually attracts men.”

So far, so good. He’s not wrong.

Then Midlife Moves saw Rian’s tweet and raised him one of his own:

Midlife Moves: “Other men like your six-pack more than women do.”

Not in every case obviously, but Midlife isn’t wrong here either. Most guys obsess over shit that isn’t as important as they think it is or want it to be. Investing in yourself and in whatever it is that you believe in can create huge blind spots and make you question your very existence at times when those beliefs are called into question. Here’s a thing about the “six-pack” question:

I don’t have “six-pack” abs. Not even close. Never have, never will. I’m lazy and I don’t want to put the work in to get six-pack abs. I like my junk food and my alcohol too much, so I know I’ll never have those type of abs, and I’m okay with that. The women that have been in my life didn’t care that I didn’t have six-pack abs either. They still enjoyed running their hands, fingers, and tongues all over my body.

Back to the screen shots though:

Here’s a guy who has no clue and it shows: “Which then attracts women because of the social proof placed on you by other men…” This was in response to Midlife saying that “other men like your six-pack more than women do.” Here’s the full screen shot of that:

Now it’s time for a little history lesson, so bear with me here…

I remember dating and meeting women back in through the 90’s and even into the early 2000’s. I was single, ready to mingle, and going to the bar was pretty much my thing and what I did. The internet as we know it today either didn’t exist or was in its infancy.

“Back in the day,” guys were clueless about “how to get da gurlz.” I know I was. I had no idea what to say or to do. The difference between then and now was that at least guys understood to a certain degree how to dress, most guys were not overweight, and hygiene was mandatory, not optional, like today. In short, while guys didn’t have Game, they at least looked and smelled presentable compared to today. Looking and smelling good went far back then and I would say that it is even more crucial today than ever.

Guys “back in the day” were clueless, but today? I almost think the majority of guys are beyond hope and are a lost cause. When they don’t understand the concept of social proof, you know things are bad.

I agree with what Midlife is saying here. Being surrounded by a bunch of guys isn’t social proof to women that you are “the man.” Being surrounded by women is.

Considering that most guys are horrible at game and have no idea what to say or do to pick up women, being surrounded by guys is a liability, not an asset, when it comes to seduction. Guys step on their own dicks all by themselves, but put them into a group together and you might not step on your own dick, but your bro will step on it for you. Most of the time it won’t be intentional, but sometimes it is. I’ve seen guys throw other guys under the bus in order to get a chance to get the girl.

Back in 2019 when I got back into the dating scene, I remember taking a date to the bar that I liked going to. We were sitting down, enjoying a drink, and then I saw this:

Here’s your “social proof” of guys in a group. Does that look like a group of guys that are “getting da gurlz?” Hanging around in a bar, huddled over beers, at a bare minimum, is going to be seen as neutral to a woman. Worst case, your value to her is going to go down. I remember my date saw me filming this little interaction and so she looked over at them, rolled her eyes, and said, “My god, what a bunch of dorks.” That’s attractive fellas. As a bonus: notice the lack of awareness this group of guys has. Notice their clothing. This is the norm today.

Here’s another picture from that same scene, same night:

That video and that snapshot was taken in early 2019. A year later in 2020, right before the pandemic hit and shut everything down, nothing had changed.

Even back in the 90’s groups of guys that were huddled together over their beers wasn’t seen as social proof to women. It was just social proof to other men. Get three guys together at the bar and soon you’ll have a whole gaggle of guys standing around you, one hand in their pocket, the other clutching their beer as a shield. I have seen this phenomenon over and over again. In this respect, nothing has changed today. You think it is hard to isolate a woman from her group of girlfriends? Try getting a woman to walk up to a group of dudes in order to separate one guy from that herd. It’s never happened and it never will, and that’s because women don’t approach. Guys hanging around other guys and it will get you social proof in order to get the girls? No. That’s not how this works.

Guys talk about “unicorns” when it comes to women. You want to know a true “unicorn?” A guy that knows Game and can run as your wing man. In all of my years of chasing skirt, I have yet to meet a guy locally who knows how to run Game and be a wing for me. My Game isn’t spectacular, but I have Game and I can wing for another guy if that is what needs to happen. The problem is most guys have no clue, so there’s no point running wing for the clueless.

Speaking of clueless, I think technology has made people stupid. We don’t know how to interact with one another on a face to face level anymore. We have no idea about social cues, body language, tonality, and nuance. And it’s only going to get worse if what I’m seeing now continues. Technology is constantly changing and evolving and it’s doing it at lightning speed. Human nature hasn’t changed in years.

I have gotten to a point in my life that if I’m going to go out to a bar with guy friends, I have a choice. I can separate myself from the herd and run Game solo, or I can just hang with my friends and not worry about chasing skirt. Trying to get a guy to run as a wing is damn near impossible, so I don’t even bother anymore.

Guys running their mouths on the internet, I see you. Your ignorance and your lack of experience shows.

To all of you that are reading this post, be very careful and very skeptical of whose “advice” you listen to. In many cases it will do more harm than good.

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