Red Flags are a green light – Jack Napier

The only reason I ever spoke this sentence was because I’ve had experiences with women who, according to the internet, were Satan’s spawn of scum and villainy but were kind and loving in real life.

According to the internet tattoos, piercings and dyed hair are all signs of a disrespectful, broken and promiscuous woman who could never be loyal. Leaving out the fact that most women who look like the pretty blond trad got their shine from a Target bottle to look better for the camera and not her husband.

My experience, though not the norm, has been quite simple.

There are women with tattoos and piercings who treated me like a king and there are women with tattoos and piercings who made me question reality and made me want to put a fucking noose around my neck.

As with women without tattoos and piercings.

At the end of the day I only have her actions, not her words or appearance, to judge her on.

‘What are ‘Red Flags?’

Red Flags is a subjective description an individual uses for traits, characteristics and or behaviors that excludes people from interacting with them in a platonic, business or romantic fashion.

I could give you some arbitrary list of things to avoid but the fact is that it’s all up to you to decide what you deal with or not.

What it comes down to, is what you want.

I know what I want and don’t want and what that is, has no influence on you.

You are not me.

Be like me it worked for me is very big in this space because a lot of readers and watchers don’t live the life they want so they look for someone to tell them how to live. 

But I’m not going to tell you how to live. I’d rather tell you to go and live.

Make your own failures, find your own preferences and create your own experiences.

From those experiences come lessons and from those lessons come stories.

And with all those different stories from all those different men we can swap notes.

Everybody gets one

Rob once told me everybody gets one which in my opinion is the best approach with ‘red flags’ like the traits being spouted online.

But what makes the exception to getting one?

Those are what I would call crimson flags but you don’t have to. Keep calling them red flags if you like.

These are characteristics and or behaviors that get no pass. They get instant excommunication. 

These aren’t things you can see on a person. These are things you can only experience with a person.

I think we can all agree that cheating would be one. There are men who choose to have an outing themselves and call it even and if you’re one of them: get yours.

I would cut everything right then and there. There are elephants in the room you can’t put a carpet over.

Substance abuse is another. But we’ve all heard of the ‘save-a-hoe’ mentality where a guy will sacrifice himself in order to try and save a woman only to find out she can not be saved and will drag him down with her in this foolish attempt.

‘Law 11: Avoid the unhappy and the unlucky’

Poor financial decisions or no financial future. Women who rely on being bailed out for whatever shitty situation they got themselves into.

These are just a few examples to bring the point home that you can’t SEE these circumstances on a person but you figure them out about them.

Substance abuse can be seen after a certain point, or smelled, but you’d be surprised how good people are at hiding things.

What it all comes down to is that your experience forms your wants. If you have no experience you will have no point of reference and with no point of reference you only have well constructed clickbait on social media.

Now get out there, fail, touch some grass, get burned but most of all…

Live life. 

It is not FOR fucking an arbitrary number of women before thinking about commitment

“You need to fuck at least 50 women before thinking about a relationship” – Myron Gaines.

Rule Zero:

“TRP’s mission is to increase men’s sexual power and options. Anyone who does not share that goal will be banned the instant we detect them.”

In my humble opinion “Red pill podcasts” are just a light night talkshow for men in the anger phase to lash out at women for whatever reason they make them look dumb with nothing actionable to add.

It doesn’t add to rule zero.

It is however a money printing machine and just shows you how lost guys really are.

And of course because they are so popular everything the hosts say will be taken as gospel and thrown in the red pill.

If you haven’t fucked 50 women, you ain’t shit.

Funnily enough, this has been addressed in the “bible” of the red pill The Rational Male #1

From Plate Theory #2: 

“Spinning Plates doesn’t necessarily mean you’re fucking all of your plates. It’s more of a spreading out of your efforts across a wider pool of subjects.”

So however states whatever arbitrary number of women guys need to have slept with is selling you something and playing to your insecurities.

I probably will not be making friends by calling out this nonsense, but it has to have been said.

TRP mean to increase your opportunities of interacting with and chances with women.

Wether this be going out for drinks, sleeping with them, commit to them or just sleep with them.

The end goal is up to you and is not set in stone. 

or know for 100% certainty it wouldn’t work out.

I’ve always hated not knowing.

I wanted to know WHY.

Why do we do the things we do, why are certain rules in place, why did I have to act a certain why and why not?

That’s what got me into this space in all honesty.

“Why?”

One of my greatest fears in life is regret.

Regret of not having done everything I could have done to get what I could have gotten out of life I wanted.

I’m not a big fan of flash and bling and I’m not a guy who feels the need tob rag but I am a man who wonders why and how.

How would it be?

How will it go?

Why wouldn’t I do it?

“You should buy a book on why you want to know all that!” -My father

Some people are just naturally curious and some are naturally assertive.

Lucky for me I’m both.

I have made a great amount of terrible choices but none I actively regret.

I’ve been made the fool, I’ve lost money, I’ve embarresed not just myself but others as well.

But at least I did it.

I was scared as hell to go public on youtube, to narrate, to make a twitter, to offer coaching, to quit my job, to be “succesfull”.

And here I am 3K subs, 6K followers, 13 audiobooks and over a dozen online personal training clients later.

But did I die?

I didn’t then and I probably won’t now.

What’s one more adventure?