Tag: the red pill

You Don’t Really Know Her, And You Never Will.

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Here’s another truth that I’ve had to swallow that has been a bitter pill:

You can be with someone for a long time, months, years, even decades, and you will never really know them.

You will think that you know them, and I’m sure that is part of the idealism that lives inside of Men. You think you know your wife, your girlfriend, your significant other, whatever title, name or term of affection that you want to give her or call her.

But you will never really know her. Not truly.

Swallow that pill. Choke it down.

You will never really know her.

In all fairness, she will probably never really know you either. But if you are like most Men out there, you will take many opportunities to show her who you are, to invite her into your world and to get to know you better. To know who you really are.

Do not expect the same courtesy in return. She will always hold something back. I’m not saying this from a place of anger or bitterness, I’m just speaking from my own personal experience.

After every relationship I’ve had that has ended, I end up seeing more of who that woman really was.

Sometimes it’s not pretty. Sometimes it’s okay. Either way it is what it is.

I wrote a while back about a bitter red pill that I had to swallow. Check it out if you haven’t already. It’s a good place to start. This one would be the next one that I have encountered that has been really hard to get down my throat.

I don’t blame the women that have been in my life and are now gone for this lack of knowing them. It’s not their fault for the most part. It’s mine.

Goddamn, unplugging is a bitch. You go along, thinking you’ve unplugged and then something hits you. Sometimes it even blind sides you. That’s where you realize that you haven’t unplugged as much as you thought you had. That’s when you realize you are still a long way off and that you still have a lot of work to do.

Rollo Tomassi wrote about this to a degree a few years ago in an article that he called, “Kill The Beta.” I imagine to some degree this was what he was talking about.

I don’t know why this one is bothering me so bad right now, except that it shatters an illusion that I once had and cherished. That illusion was that I knew the woman I was with, that I really knew her.

Knowing now that I didn’t really know her, it’s sad to me. It’s sad because now I know more about her and what she is actually capable of. Which means that she is truly capable of anything.

In the past if you asked me if she was capable of “X,” I would have told you no way, not in a million years.

Now if you asked me if she was or is capable of “X,” I would have to say that “X” is totally possible. She could do it. Doesn’t mean she would, but she could.

That opens up a whole world of uncertainty for me. That uncertainty makes me uncomfortable. If she is capable of say, lying, cheating, deceiving, stealing, and even taking a life, it means that I don’t really know her and I cannot trust her.

I take that back. I can trust her to be her. Someone who is capable of anything. Even theft and murder.

The question that keeps haunting me is this:

Knowing that a woman is truly capable of anything and could turn on you for no reason at all, how do you trust them? How can you live with them? How can you spend time, any significant amount of time with them?

I don’t want to go through the rest of my life not being able to trust a woman. I don’t want to spend the rest of my life realizing that a woman is truly capable of anything and everything.

I don’t want to spend the rest of my life looking over my shoulder and sleeping with one eye open, wondering when, not if, she’s going to go feral on me and pull whatever shit she’s going to pull.

How do you overcome that? Or do you?

Is it simply throwing your hands up in the air and giving up? Is it submitting to the fact that All Women Are Like That? How can you be with someone that you can’t trust? Or that you can trust that she will do what she’s going to do and that she will go feral at some point and betray your trust, betray you?

I can already hear some women that might read this saying, “Not all women are like that!” To which I would answer them, “Prove it. Your words don’t count for shit with me. You’re going to have to show me that I can trust you, your words don’t count.”

I understand why some Men decide to go MGTOW now. It makes more sense. Sometimes it seems to me that it would be a much easier life not dealing with women. If I want female companionship I can always hire a professional and be done with it. At least with her, I know what I’m paying for and what I’m getting. I can see why some guys do this.

Maybe I’m just zeroed out emotionally at this point when it comes to the idea of dating and dealing with women. Right now I don’t feel like it’s worth the hassle to get to know someone only to know that I’ll never really know them and that I can only trust them about as far as I can throw them. It sucks knowing that the only thing I know for certain is that I can trust her to be her and that means that I can trust that she is capable of anything at any time. I can trust that she can go feral at any point for any reason or no reason whatsoever.

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Your Voice

Rob Says3 Comments
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Use Your Voice.

I wrote briefly about talking with a few of my fellow Men in my last post, and I intend to do that again. I’m forging bonds that hopefully will go the rest of my life. It’s good for Men to connect with like-minded Men.

While I was talking with these Men, we were “swapping notes,” so to speak. We were sharing stories and experiences. In this day and age of “Fempowerment,” “You go Girl!” and “Believe Her,” I think it is so important that Men speak up and speak out.

I believe that Men need to have their voices heard. For far too long we Men have been sitting back, biting our tongues, just “going along to get along.” We need to use our voices in opposition to the lies that are being spread to our fellow Men. Our brothers, our nephews, our sons, and our fathers.

We need to use our voices and our presences to let other Men know that they are not alone in the Dark. We are out here. We are broadcasting a signal for those who are seeking truths instead of the bullshit that is being propagated by the mainstream media.

We need to let other Men know that they aren’t crazy and delusional. We have some same shared experiences that we have witnessed with our own eyes.

I encouraged those men that I talked to to use their voices if they haven’t already. I encouraged them to speak their truths and their experiences. I encouraged them to add to the signal that is already being broadcast, to add to it and strengthen it. To add more beacons of light into that great sea of darkness.

I encourage you, the Man that is reading my words right now to do the same.

Start a blog.

Start a YouTube channel.

Get on Twitter and start speaking your experiences.

Create a podcast and bring on other like-minded Men and have a “roundtable” about your experiences. Compare your notes with one another. Speak your truths.

Push back against the lies you’ve been brainwashed to believe since you were a little boy. Let others know that it’s okay to be a masculine Man. Let them know that feminism is a lie.

Start making your voice heard. Scream into the Void. Sooner or later, and from my experience, sooner rather than later, someone will find you, they will tune into your frequency, your signal, and a connection will be made.

We are throwing lifelines out into the Dark. Someone is bound to grab on and pull themselves in.

Get in touch with me. Let’s make something happen. Let’s throw out a lifeline or two. Maybe we will save a life.

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Reaching Out

Rob Says3 Comments
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A Man is just a phone call away.

This last week has been hectic at work, what with the holidays and all coming up. I still made time to do something that I wanted to do and I have zero regrets in doing it.

2019 is going to be the year where I will travel around the country as much as time and money will allow, to meet as many of the Men that I’ve met online. I decided to start a little early though, and so I sent out a request to my followers on my e-mail list.

I told my e-mail list that I was wondering if any of them would like to talk to me. Bare minimum, I could wish them a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. If they were interested, all they needed to do was reply to my e-mail with a phone number and a time that would work for them for me to call.

I’m glad I did that. I got a far greater response than I had hoped for and a less greater response than I feared.

What I found out when I called those who were willing to have that phone call was like minded Men. Sure the age ranges varied, as did many of their life circumstances, but overall these Men have experienced similar things and had similar views that I hold.

I’m glad that I took the chance on them and that they took the chance on me. Zero regrets.

In this day and age of censorship and being de-platformed, it’s only a matter of time before Men get silenced from a keystroke from some SJW sitting in a cubicle somewhere, simply for expressing themselves as Men. We could be “unpersoned” simply for having a different point of view from the established narrative.

Like how the War on Feminism is already over, true freedom of speech has died for all I’m concerned. If you have to watch what you say, and can count on a clock the time it will take to be silenced, true free speech is already dead.

Many Men in the ‘Sphere are setting contingency plans for their eventual banning and deplatforming. I’m working on mine as well. It’s only a matter of time before someone comes along, sees what I have written or recorded and decides to be offended and demand blood. Let them come. I’m ready. I’m waiting.

In the end, a Man is only a phone call away. Start setting up those connections and bonds now before you get silenced and that opportunity dies with your internet presence.

Offer your phone number to a Man in need. Offer it even if he doesn’t need it. Call him when you get a number. You may be surprised to find that you have more in common with him than not.

You won’t regret doing it. I sure didn’t.

I’m forging bonds as I write this that will go past the internet. I’m going to meet these Men and forge further bonds with them in person.

This is how you adapt, overcome, and survive. This is how you thrive, succeed, and excel.

Make those connections that go beyond an avatar on Twitter. Forge those bonds that go beyond words in a chatroom on YouTube.

Go beyond a picture on Instagram.

Make the offering. Make the phone call. Create bonds. Create alliances.

Find out that you are not alone and probably not the minority after all.

I hope this finds you happy, warm, and thriving.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you all.

 

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