comeuppance

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…Is a warning.

Oh sure, “Bro’s Before Ho’s” has a definition that most people, at least on the surface, will subscribe to. It’s that idea, or a code of conduct, for guys to stand with their male friends over a woman.

The reality though, is that “Bro’s Before Ho’s” is a warning. It’s more like, “Dude if you get with my girl, I will kill you first and then I’ll go after her.” I hate to say it, but that’s been the reality I’ve seen instead of the wishful thinking of the classic definition of this phrase.

In the above picture, Chest Rockwell says, “There is no brotherhood or solidarity between men.” I hate that he’s right. When a woman cheats, it’s usually with someone she knows and it’s also usually someone that her significant other knows. Many times it is a close friend to both of them, and occasionally it’s another family member (i.e. his own flesh and blood brother, or even his father.)

When I think back to hearing from guy friends who got cheated on, I would say that half of the cheaters were guys that the cheated on knew personally. About half of those that he knew were guys that he considered to be a close friend of his.

Speaking of phrases, here’s another one for you:

“A hard dick has no conscience.”

I remember that I learned that one even before I had heard the phrase, “Bro’s before Ho’s.” A hard dick has no conscience means you’ll bang a girl with or without a condom, because she is there, ready, willing, and able. Got a condom? Great! You don’t? Shit. Fuck it, you’ll dive in anyway and damn the consequences. Ask me how I know. This isn’t just about protected or unprotected sex.

I grew up with a couple of guys who were about five years older than I was. Tom and Kelly. These guys knew each other since they were little and they lived across the street from each other. They were literally inseparable. They did everything together. The first time they got high? They were together. First time they got drunk? They were together. First time they went deer hunting and got their first kill? They were together.

I’m not kidding you when I say, these guys were literally joined at the hip.

That all changed though when they were both about 21.

Tom had a girlfriend at the time that he had been seeing for about a year or so. He was pretty serious about her. Tom bought a house and moved her in and then decided to have a house warming party to celebrate his first real major purchase. When Tom decided to party, he went all out. There were 3 kegs of beer at this party, a tub full of “jungle juice,” and all sorts of assorted “mind altering substances” were scattered around the house.

I remember all of this because I was there.

I remember there was a point where everybody had been partying for a few hours and things were really starting to take off. I also remember Tom was looking for his girlfriend and so he was going from room to room to find her. He eventually found her in their bedroom, and he found her under Kelly.

The ass beating that Kelly took almost landed him in the hospital and it almost landed Tom in jail. It took 4 guys to pull Tom off of Kelly. That was the first time that I saw a man take an honest to god serious beating. Kelly was beaten almost into unconsciousness.

All those years of friendship vanished in a moment. Their friendship ended that night as well as Tom’s relationship with the girl he was seeing. It was a helluva way to end what had been a great party.

“Bro’s Before Ho’s” is a warning and it’s also a “rule” so to speak. Guys will throw that “rule” around as long as it benefits them. It’s “rules for thee, not for me” though.

I’ve seen and had wingmen throw their “bro” under the bus to get some pussy. I’ve seen supposed “bro’s” become the ultimate cockblock.

Chest is correct when he said, “Wipe all revenge fantasy away.” Women aren’t going to get their comeuppance and that’s because there is no solidarity or brotherhood among men. I don’t say that with any bitterness or anger, it’s just the truth.

“Bro’s before Ho’s” is a great sentiment, but that’s all it is. It’s another type of chivalry amongst men that doesn’t exist in the real world. It’s another ought to be instead of what actually is.

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happy businessman checking message on smartphone in downtown alley — He just saw the latest “revenge porn” story.

I watched a couple of Rian Stone’s latest videos on his channel recently and he’s going over some material that has been in circulation now for nearly 8 years. The two latest videos that caught my attention was Michael’s story and Confessions of a Reformed Incel. In both videos, Rian points out and breaks down some really interesting information, and what is interesting and a little sad to me is that “what is old is new again.” Not to sound like a cliche, but the more things change, the more they stay the same. Check out those videos though, they are worth the time and worth the price of admission.

One of the things that really stood out for me was the bitterness that both guys had towards women in particular, “Chad’s,” and society in general. I can see why “revenge/outrage porn” stories have their appeal. It’s men getting a sense of justice, even if they are living it vicariously through a story of another man “who got his.” It’s women getting their comeuppance for their shitty behavior and their shitty choices from their pasts. I understand this. Hell, just thinking about it gives me “warm and fuzzies” at least for a moment.

But here’s the reality:

Kaylene speaking to Michael: “Michael let me tell you something: not only am I going to have my cake eat it and eat it too. I’m going to have it with ice cream and sprinkles”. All of the girls laughed and smiled in agreement.

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Some men like to think that women will “pay” for their poor choices that they made while they were younger, and in all honesty, some of them do. The real reality though is that most won’t pay for their poor choices because they won’t have to. There are plenty of beta males ready and willing to forgive them of their sins and ready and willing to wife them up. There is an ocean of guys ready and willing to give them a pass.

Understand that “the pretty people” have had it good for the younger parts of their lives and for the most part, they will go right on enjoying their lives at least into middle age or beyond. Just because you chose an air of superiority and chose not to participate doesn’t mean that others won’t. People living the “good” life tend to go on living the “good” life. Sorry if you find that disappointing.

You have a couple of options:

You can stay bitter and probably end up unhappy and possibly alone for the rest of your life. If you are young, say around 25, you have roughly another 50 years of life ahead of you. That’s a long time to be bitter and possibly alone. I’m not talking about the Lonely Old Man Myth here, but it will be a possible choice that you may have to face down the road.
You can “settle” for “used goods.” Guess what? Most women are going to be sexually active because it’s encouraged and because they can. Again, you can hang on to your anger and bitterness, and you can take on the role of provider/plow horse and maybe you’ll get sex from your wife who isn’t interested in you once or twice a year. But hey, you got to be a Dad right? If you think this way, your entitlement and your bitterness is still showing. You get the woman and the relationship you deserve.
You can say fuck it all and walk away. Plenty of guys go this route. Maybe it’s for you. It’s not for me. It seems too much like surrender and giving up. If you are young, you still have the rest of your life ahead of you to figure out what you are going to do with your time. Don’t worry though, you’ll have plenty of time to figure that out.
You can accept reality for what it is and you can join in on the fun. Instead of being angry that things aren’t the way that you think they should be, you can accept them for what they are and enjoy yourself, your life, and the women that show up in your life. Not all women are absolute whores. Not all of them have made the shittiest of shitty decisions. You won’t know that though if you can’t get outside of your bitterness and your ideals. You can have all sorts of amazing experiences with a bunch of amazing women and who knows, one of them could turn into something that could possibly last you the rest of your life.

I don’t know about you, but I know for me I would rather be on my deathbed with all of my memories of the people I have met and the things I have done than dying alone, which we all do anyways, with nothing but regret and ideals swimming in my head of things that never were and would never be. You see, I don’t regret the things I have done. I don’t regret the things that didn’t work out the way that I had hoped they would. I regret the things that I haven’t done and now that window of opportunity is gone. I regret not making certain decisions and certain choices and taking certain actions, because now I’ll never know how those things could have turned out. That’s what I regret. Ideals of what “ought” to be and fear paralyzed me into doing nothing and that is the biggest regret of all.

Comeuppance is a great dopamine hit. It’s that satisfaction that “Karen” got what was coming to her in the end. The real truth though is that comeuppance is just another form of mental masturbation. It’s another coping mechanism to get you out of taking responsibility for your own life and your own choices. It’s another way for you to not take action or do anything but it sure feels like you are doing something.

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