Author: Rob Says

A man who loves and likes women.

Good Intentions

Rob Says1 Comment

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The road to hell is paved with good intentions. – Unknown

Several years ago in a prior life at a prior job, I had a co-worker who recommended a film to me. The title of that film escapes me now, but I do remember watching it, and it was terrible. It was so bad that I wanted the two hours of my life back. I remember that same co-worker asking me if I had seen the film and when I said yes, I remember them looking delighted and then offering another suggestion of something to watch. I had already seen this particular film, and it was another film that I wanted my two hours back from.

The point I’m getting at here is:

Be careful who you listen to. We all want to listen to our loved ones and our friends. We all want to listen to those people that we have a vested interest in. It’s hard not to. I even think to some degree we may be hard-wired to do this.

All of your friends, family, co-workers, acquaintances, and even guys on the internet probably have good intentions. Not all, but I would say most have good intentions.

Like the quote at the beginning of this article though, the road to hell is paved with good intentions.

“Crabs in a bucket” is one way to look at it. It’s easy to see the crabs in the bucket when you don’t have a vested interest in the person. That co-worker that you only interact with while you are at work comes to mind and is an easy example. But what about the people you care about? Your family and your close friends? It’s harder to see that “crabs in the bucket” mentality when you are dealing with them on a daily basis or you live with them.

This isn’t anything new by any means, but the reason I bring it up is because of some recent developments in my life with people that I am close to. I’m having to reassess my involvement with certain people because of what direction they are going and what they choose to focus on. There are things that I used to believe in that I don’t anymore because they no longer serve me. Those beliefs served their purpose at the time, but now I’ve moved on. I’ve been trying to get those people close to me to move on as well, but they don’t want to yet. They aren’t ready, and that’s okay. This is where we part ways.

We tend to believe in the same things that other people that are close to us believe in. We tend to have the same points of view and that’s normal. When you change your point of view or when you change what you believe and they don’t, that’s when it’s time to reassess the situation. Sometimes it isn’t that we no longer believe in something, because we still do, it’s just that that “thing” is no longer a priority for us, while it is still a priority for the other person.

I watch guys get “stuck” in the “red pill rage phase” and I totally understand where they are because I’ve been there. The thing is, I’m not there anymore and haven’t been there for a while. I want to move on to other things and so I create a bit of distance in order to do that. When I talk to some of these people that I call friends or acquaintances though, I see they are still stuck where they are and it’s disappointing and sad. At the end of the day though, it’s where they choose to be. I just can’t be there with them anymore.

Be careful who you listen to because you can get “sucked back in.” It’s really easy when that’s where you came from or where you started. It’s easy to get caught up in old routines, old ways, and old habits. It’s easy to get caught up in outrage again. Corporations bashing on men aren’t hitting the buttons anymore? No problem, we have Karen. Karen isn’t doing it anymore? No problem, we have “LooksMax.” That isn’t doing it anymore? We have… You get the idea. Outrage is easy to manufacture. If it isn’t one thing, it’s something else.

Everybody has their “hot button.” Their “thing” that sets them off and gets them going. You and I are no different. I know what my buttons are and I keep a close eye on them because I know what will “set me off.” I do this because I know how easy it is to fall back into old patterns and habits. It’s easy to fall back on outrage and do nothing. It’s easy to get pissed off and angry. It’s much harder to do something, anything else. That’s what I want to do though, something else.

So that’s what I’m going to do. Time to say goodbye for now to some people, and it’s time to say goodbye period, to others.

Be careful who you listen to and who you spend time with. Your time is your most precious commodity and you can never get it back.

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Becoming A Content Creator

Rob Says3 Comments
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This photo has nothing to do with this article. I just thought it was cool.

I went to sleep at midnight this last Friday night/Saturday morning and I woke up at 8:30. 8 and 1/2 hours of straight, continuous sleep. You would think that I would have woken up refreshed right?

I woke up exhausted.

I seldom remember my dreams, but I remember that night. I dreamt of work. Being on the truck, watching the bins go up on the claw and up the rail only to tip over and dump their contents into the shredder. Rinse and repeat, over and over.

And then I was dreaming that I was dreaming and that the alarm clock was going to go off soon and I would have to get up and go back to work. That was the worst part of the dream. I really thought in my dream that I had to get up and go to work. It created a sinking sensation in my stomach that almost woke me up.

It woke me up enough to realize that I had been dreaming, and that today was not a work day, today was Saturday. The sense of relief was so overwhelming that I almost cried. Later, I had yet another dream, and in this dream I dreamt that I rode somewhere on my motorcycle and when I came back to my bike, someone had stolen the saddlebags, the highway pegs, the seat, and the gas tank of all things. I’m telling you, I can’t get no relief.

Moving along now…

Tim Keefe has asked me if he could write some things and post them on my blog, as he figures that many of my readers would find what he has to say of interest. I agree with him and so he’ll be posting some of his writings on my blog as well as me posting my usual nonsense to you guys.

When I wrote Why You Shouldn’t Care About Karen, I gave not only that article a lot of thought, but I’ve been thinking about things in general that are also applicable to that article.

I’ve been a “content creator” (I hate that term) for over two years now. Some of the things that I’ve realized as time has gone by is that I don’t have nearly enough time to be a “content consumer.” With all of the different projects that I’ve been working on and all of the different things that I have been involved with, I don’t have the time to sit down and watch many other “content creators.” I don’t have the time to “consume” like I did years ago.

That’s mostly a good thing by the way. What little content I do consume has been thoroughly filtered for me by me. Am I getting something from it other than a dopamine hit? Am I learning how to do something? Am I learning a new skill or honing one that I already have? Then I’ll make the time to watch or read that type of content. If it’s just outrage or the same old, same old that I’ve already seen or read, I skip it and move on. My life and my time are too short.

Do you want to become a content creator? Here’s something that I’ve learned that may or may not help you out:

What do you want to do? Lots of guys hand out advice about finding specific niches and focusing on them. That’s solid safe advice, especially if you are looking to monetize and sell things. But what happens if you burn out, the niche runs its course, or you find you want to do something else? Now you have to create another channel on YouTube, or you have to buy another domain name and start another website. Nothing wrong with that if that is your thing, and if it is, by all means, do that. But what if you don’t want to “start over” again? What then?

That’s why I chose the domain RobSays.net. It’s about me talking about me. I can talk about things “red pill,” I can talk about things related to motorcycling, and I can talk about things related to editing and creating videos. I can cover it all if I want and I don’t have to keep making websites and starting over.

It probably isn’t a good way to monetize and sell things, but then again, I don’t care about monetizing and selling things. I create the content that I like and that I want. Since I’m not trying to monetize or sell things, I don’t need to keep an eye on the competition and see what they are doing.

There are plenty of guys trying to cash in on the “red pill” right now. Lots of YouTube channels that are all saying the same things and regurgitating the top guys. Almost all of them are doing outrage porn. It’s become saturated and boring. Different guys, different camera angles, different quality, same message. The top guys have it covered, I’ll just stick with them and honestly I don’t even watch a lot of what they have to say anymore because I’ve already heard them say it before. I guess this is what is called “Life After The Red Pill.”

I think when you decide to become a content creator, it’s ideally because you aren’t finding other people doing the stuff that you want to see, hear, and/or read. So you start making it yourself. I know I take great satisfaction in the videos and the blog posts I have made, even if I never watch or read them again, and in all honesty, I almost never do watch my videos or read my blog posts after they are published. I know what I said or wrote, why do I want to revisit it yet again? Also, my inner critic will come out and start pointing out the flaws and the mistakes and then I’ll want to revise and remake whatever it was, so that I can get it “perfect.” And we all know what happens when that happens…

Recently I’ve unsubscribed to a lot of channels on YouTube and same with a bunch of blogs that I used to read. I don’t have the time or the interest anymore, so it’s time that I move on from them. Some of the channels and blogs I have followed for years, others for a shorter period of time, but either way, it’s time to move on.

Whatever you want to do, do it authentically. I guess you can authentically regurgitate your favorite guru and rip him off, but can you really? Don’t bother answering that question, it’s rhetorical. I guess you can authentically talk about the latest outrage, but keep in mind that other guys have probably beaten you to it already and you’ll just be another channel or another blog talking about the same outrage as everybody else. Outrage gets tiresome after awhile and from guys I’ve been interacting with, they are looking for something different now. They are getting tired of the outrage as well. I guess we have all hit the stage of “Life After The Red Pill.”

Whatever you do, do it your way, in your style, with your own voice. That’s authentic.

So if you want to become a content creator, start there. Start with “What do you want to do?” Start with something that you would like to see or read, or hear and you aren’t finding it anywhere else and then create that. And be authentic with it. Show who you are in your way of creating and presenting your content.

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Why You Shouldn’t Care About “Karen.”

Rob Says3 Comments

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Lots of guys on the internet worrying about “Karen.” Why? Why do you care about what “Karen” does or doesn’t do? Karen is gonna Karen. Unless you married Karen, or are in a relationship with Karen, or thinking about marrying or being in a relationship with Karen, why do you care about Karen?

While we are talking about Karen, why are you so concerned with Murder Hornets? Remember Africanized bees from a few years ago? No? Yeah, no one else remembers them either, but apparently they were going to be the new scourge of the world and kill off all the honey bees and anyone else who got too close to them. The world didn’t come to an end then, and it isn’t going to come to an end with the Murder Hornets either.

I see so many guys “unplugging from the Matrix and taking the Red Pill,” finally starting to understand women’s behavior and whatnot, and while they are getting out of the Matrix, they are still stuck in the Web.

The Web of not only Mainstream Media, but also Social Media.

That article about Karen doing Karen stuff? Where did you see it? Who shared it with you? Why are you sharing it with me? Why do you think I care? Social media “news” is seldom newsworthy. It’s definitely not worth my time or attention, but why is it worth yours? Who is curating your news for you? What are you getting out of it?

Why are you choosing outrage over something else?

While everybody is “Karening” Karen, and thinking that the food supply is going to dry up because of hornets, and worrying about lines on photos, because guys are leaning in, I’ve been doing other things.

For one, I figured out how to get my microphone to sound like a high dollar professional microphone for free. I can not only record videos with great sound, I can live stream with great sound as well.

I’ve also figured out some cool edits that are really easy to do and they add a little more interest to my videos. They don’t take much time either, only a few seconds to do.

I’m also reading a couple of really good books, and while I’m at it, I’m having conversations with people that have nothing to do with Karen, COVID, or Murder Hornets. I’m even talking about lighting arrangements with a couple of guys.

Karen, COVID-19, leaning in, and Murder Hornets. This is what the internet has become. What a waste of time. Guys unplugging and yet still sucking down the outrage like it’s going out of style. I guess you guys can’t let go of your mental masturbation.

What do you get from it? A dopamine hit? Do you feel like you’ve done something useful or productive with your time? Are you looking for “brownie points?”

I’ve said it before and I’m saying it yet again:

Vote With Your Attention, Vote With Your Wallet.

When you click on that link and read that article that Karen wrote, what are you doing? You’re doing exactly what she wants you to do. You’re giving her attention. Same with the YouTube videos about her. Why are you giving any of it a moment of your time? Is your life really that good (or dull) that you have nothing else to do?

Who cares what Karen does? Who cares what she thinks? Same with Murder Hornets. What are you going to do about them? Start carrying cans of RAID around and nuke every flying insect you see? Why are you reading and watching stuff that tells you what to be afraid of? Why are you reading and/or watching stuff that tells you what to be outraged about?

You don’t watch Mainstream Media anymore right? Haven’t done it for years? And yet your reading, sharing, retweeting, and commenting on things that are even more absurd and trivial than what the Mainstream Media is showing these days.

When you have to talk about Karen, guess what that makes you? A Karen.

You’ve “unplugged” right? Now get out of the Web of Social and Mainstream Media. Decide what is actually worth your time and energy. Outrage isn’t it.

Those links to articles and videos that you want to share with me? I’ve already seen them. I saw them over two years ago. Nothing has changed. Do me a favor and don’t share them with me, because I don’t care.

Get out of the Web of Outrage and do something more creative and productive with your time. Or stay stuck in it and burn. Either way I don’t care. Just don’t share that nonsense with me. I’m done with it.

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