What Example Are You Setting?

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One Man Helps Another

We all are just going along, doing our thing, living our lives.

And out of the blue, someone comes along and says, “Love reading your work.”

It stopped me dead in my tracks.

I literally don’t have the words. Other than, “Thank you so much, your words me a lot to me.”

It’s simple things like that, that make me want to be a better man.

You never know who is watching what you do. You never know what example you are setting for someone else. You never know who is looking up to you.

Until something like that happens.

Life is such a dichotomy.

On one hand, no one cares what you do. They aren’t watching, they are too busy being caught up in their own world, doing their own thing.

But on the other hand, they are watching, they do notice, and what you are saying and doing can make a powerful impact.

Keep this dichotomy in mind as you go about your daily life. No one is watching, and yet they are. No one cares, but they do.

Don’t worry about seeking approval, do you. Do your thing. Realize that someone is watching. Someone is learning from you. Someone is exemplifying you. Someone is emulating you. Someone wants to be like you.

Be that role model.

Be you.

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5 Pleasant Truths – 1

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Seek the Good, You’ll Find It

1. When you seek the good, you will find it.

2. A woman shouldn’t be the center of your life, but a great woman can help make your life fantastic.

3. Those screeching, harpy feminists? They are the minority. Most women out there are just as confused as we men are. Give them a break. Give them a chance.

4. While technology can be “bad” when overused, it can make life amazing. Look at how easy it is today, you can connect with amazing people across the world with a swipe, click, or a keystroke. How does it get better than that?

5. Helpers are everywhere. You just need to open your eyes to see them. Look around you. You’ll see.


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The Most Unpleasant of Unpleasant Truths

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The One Who Always Comes for You in the End.

I’ve covered this particular topic many times in the past. The most recent was here. I’ve also mentioned it to my e-mail subscribers on more than one occasion as well.

Why do I keep going over it? Why do you see, hear, and read other Men talking about it? It’s because it’s that important and if you don’t recognize it, realize it, and most importantly, do something about it, you’ll never change. You’ll never get better than what you already are.

What is it that I’m talking about?

You are where you are in your life because of you and the choices you have made thus far. In short, your life is your fault. All of it.

Only you can decide for yourself if and when you want to do something different. Only you can give up your excuses. Until you do, you will stay right where you are. You will do nothing different, you’ll be nothing different, and you’re life will continue to go down the path that it is on. For some of you, that means your life will go nowhere.

Then one day you will die. And that will be it.




When are you going to do something different? On your deathbed? Nice try, but too late then.

What are you putting off doing today for tomorrow?

Let me take the suspense and the drama out of it for you. There’s no tomorrow. There’s no, and I mean, ZERO guarantee that you’ll be around tomorrow.

Is this “too heavy” for you? Too serious? Too “dark?”

I’ve got news for you. I don’t care what you think about it. Neither does life, nature, the Universe, or what we know as reality, care either.

So what’s stopping you? Fear? Shame? Guilt? Mom and Dad’s approval? What excuse are you using to stop from truly living?

When are you going to do what you truly want to do? 5 years from now? 10? 20? Never?

If you are going to live your life trying to “do the right thing,” if you are going to live for someone else’s expectations, if you are going to live to “serve other’s,” guess what? You might as well not be alive at all.

If you want to serve other’s, you have got to serve yourself first. In order to give someone else 100%, you’ve got to give 100% to yourself first. Whatever you are giving to yourself is the most that you can give to someone else.

Giving yourself 50%? That’s the maximum you can give to other’s. 25%? Less? That’s all you will be able to give to other’s. At a maximum.

Stop putting off your life. Stop procrastinating. Go pick up chicks. Start your own business. Go travel and see sights and do the things you’ve always wanted to do. Stop seeking approval from other’s. Stop waiting around. Time is NOT your friend on this one.

You can always make more money. You can always get another job. You can always start another business. You can always get another woman. You can always get into another relationship. You can always make new friends.

You can’t, I repeat, you cannot get your time back.

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