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Women, Relationships, And Onions

Rob Says2 Comments
Women and Relationships

I saw something interesting the other day on Twatter. Some guys I follow happen to follow a different guy who decided to write a blog post about “Investing In Genuine Desire.” What got me interested in trying to read this particular post was some of the replies to the author, this one in particular:

I know I’ve wrote about this before, but I’ll be damned if I can find it at the moment, so I’m going to sum up the most salient points.

Why do women leave? For every woman, or man for that matter, that leaves, they will have a reason that is unique to them and to you. Maybe she left you because you were a fat piece of shit with nothing going on in your life. The next woman left because you lost weight and became a skinny piece of shit. Point is: both left for their own reasons.

The real truth of women leaving is twofold:

1. They left because they wanted to.

2. They left because they could.

End of story. Trying to find out “why” isn’t going to change anything and it isn’t going to prevent a future woman from leaving if she so desires. Trying to mitigate her leaving is putting yourself in her “frame” and it smacks of covert contracts on your part.

If anything, you should be so busy with things in your life that if she leaves, it’s not going to be the end of the world. Sure it will be disappointing, sure it will hurt. That’s normal. You’ll be too busy to be worrying too much about it if it happens though. You have a life right?

Women and relationships are kind of like onions. Sometimes they stink, sometimes they taste really good and add flavor to your life, and sometimes they will make you cry.

They are also like onions in the way that an onion doesn’t have a core. We guys have this fascination with trying to get the “root” or the “core” of the matter. This includes sex, relationships, and everything in between. Hell, I just tried to read an approximately 2000 word essay about “Investing in Genuine Desire.”

I say tried, because I couldn’t finish it. The author is way overthinking things.

“Women are made to be loved, not understood.” – Oscar Wilde

He had a lot of interesting labels and terminology, but when I finally tapped out and cried uncle, it was because he’s peeling back the onion only he’s going to find out that there is no “core.” There is no “truth” to the mystery that he’s created for himself and that he’s trying to unravel.

Keep digging at women to understand them and eventually you will, but you won’t be able to love them anymore. The beauty, the mystery, the chemistry, all of it will be gone. Same goes for relationships. Pick them apart long enough and there will be nothing left in your hands but wisps and ashes.

Ideally, your life should be so full of interesting things to do and to see that you won’t have time to ask questions like what the author was asking. The guy has too much time on his hands if he has time to write a 2000 word essay on “Investing in Genuine Desire.”

If you have the time to sit around and think, “It took her two hours to text me back, so I’ll wait four hours before I text her back.” You have too much time on your hands. I work all day, write blog posts, create and edit videos and do live streams as well as find time to have sex and date. I don’t have time to sit around and wonder why she did or didn’t text me back and why it did or didn’t take “x” amount of time. I’m too fucking busy to worry about that. My girl will text me when she wants and I’ll get back to her when I get the time and get a chance. I’m not worried or thinking about what she is or isn’t doing.

You want to get genuine desire from her? Have a life that is more interesting than hers. That’s it. You don’t have to be “The World’s Most Interesting Man,” you just need to have a life that is more interesting than hers. And have you seen most women today?

Sorry ladies, I’m not trying to shit on you, but most of you don’t have fuck all going on in your lives. Most of you are outright boring. So just be more interesting than she is. That’s it. There’s your “hypergamy switch” for you.

Instead of sitting around overthinking things like you usually do, why not keep it simple, stupid?

Like Oscar Wilde said, “Women are made to be loved, not understood.” So stop trying to understand them and just love them. Enjoy them because they are there. Have fun with them, be fun for them, fuck them, and enjoy your time with them because one day it will be over. It could be that she decides to leave, it could be that you decide to leave, it could be that one of you dies. There’s no guarantees in life that you will outlive or outlast the other.

Have a life that is interesting. If your life is more interesting than hers, she’ll stick around. At least for awhile. Remember, “She’s not yours, it’s just your turn.” And your “turn” could last for 50+ years. Or it could be just one hour of one day.

Stop overthinking things and get a hobby. Ideally you should be too busy to be worrying about if she desires you or not. Your life should be so full that it’s great if she’s there, but it’s fine if she isn’t. Ideally you should be exhausted by the time you fall into bed.

Stop peeling back the layers of the onion because if you do, you’ll find the “truth” is that there is no “core,” no “center,” no “truth,” no “answer.” Just that it is, and now that you’ve peeled it back into oblivion, you’ll have nothing in your hand but shreds and shards of what was.

Stop trying to prevent her from leaving or losing her desire. Stop trying to control and manipulate. You can’t keep her around if she wants to go and if you do it’ll be considered kidnapping. Also, why would you want to be around someone who doesn’t want to be around you? Better to cut your losses and move on.

There’s always more women. Always.

For God’s sake, stop worrying about “investing in her desire and in the relationship and getting her to invest herself into you and into the relationship.” Invest in yourself. Invest in your life.

Stop trying to anticipate and to control and just Let. Go.

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What Are You Susceptible To?

Rob Says1 Comment
Fuck Off Indeed.

A couple of weeks ago, a member of Jack Napier’s channel posed a question to us on Red Evening. While the question was meant more in jest and in a fit of fun, the question had some merit to it.

It went something like this:

“When it comes to the ‘Lose All Hope Crew’ and the ‘We Need A Time Machine Guys,’ which one do you consider to be a bigger threat [to society and/or people in general]?

I vaguely recall answering the question and I think I might have been quick and a little glib. I believe I said that the ‘Time Machine Guys’ were the bigger threat.

For whatever reason, his question has stuck with me until now. I want to expand on it and give it a more proper answer.

The answer to the question of which group is the “bigger threat” is:

“It depends.”

It depends on what you are susceptible to. Where are your blind spots? What are your beliefs and aspirations?

For me the “bigger threat” is still the ‘Time Machine Guys.’ The reason for that is because I grew up with them. Your society, your peer groups, and your culture at large all play a part in what you are susceptible to. For me it was the traditional conservative crowd.

As a side note: There are guys on Twitter that preach useless sayings, such as “Just take her to the dance, man,” and “Wear shoes! Not sneakers!” that would be an absolute hit with the blue pill religious crowd out here in Utah. I’m not kidding when I say that. There are a ton of guys, both young and old alike, who still believe that the way to a woman’s heart, and to her vagina, is to take her to dinner, buy her flowers and candy, take her out dancing (pre-pandemic of course) and then go and get some ice cream before taking her home for the evening, dropping her off, walking her to her door, and then hoping for that goodnight kiss.

I don’t consider the “advice” being doled out by this particular crowd to be “dangerous” per se, but I do find it outdated, useless, and worthless at best.

Back to my point: The trad crowd is more “dangerous” to me because I grew up in it and around it, and when I was younger and more naive, I used to believe in the messages that were being spouted. Those messages haven’t changed, just a newer, younger crowd preaching them today.

The ‘Lose All Hope Crew’ doesn’t really bother me. I’ve never been one to mope around in my misery and wish for someone else to do my heavy lifting. If you want something done right, you have to do it yourself for the most part. Bitching about the way things are doesn’t fix them or make them better and that’s what this particular crowd likes to relish themselves in. I’ve always been a fan of what is possible instead of what isn’t possible so don’t even bother trying. I’m not delusional enough to think that I’m impervious to this crowd’s particular message, but I like to think that I’m pretty close to it. Bitching about my lot in life has never gotten me anywhere except alienated. Nobody likes to be around “that guy.” That, and nobody is coming to save you. If you want to be “saved” you’re going to have to do it yourself.

The world doesn’t owe you, me, or anyone else in it a living. Life sucks sometimes and life isn’t fair. Get over it and play the hand you were dealt. You may not have been blessed with great genetics or money, or whatever else you think genuinely matters, but you still have things going for you and you can still figure out how to survive and thrive with what you have got. It’s what I do.

So I’ve answered the question for myself at least. What about you? Which one are you more susceptible to? If you happen to say “neither,” well then congratulations, you’ve figured out life, emotions, and human behavior. You are truly a rock that is impervious to anything the world can throw at you. You also have a gaping blind spot. You’re going to be susceptible to one or both of these crowd’s messages. Sooner or later one of these guys is going to say something that is going to strike a nerve or ring a bell for you, and that’s when they will own you.

People always assume that it’s only dumb or gullible people that get caught up in the ideology of a cult. Cults come in more flavors than just the religious variety. Both of these crowds could very possibly be considered cults on some level. Many of them have “charismatic” leaders, they both have their own ideologies, they both have their own agendas, and both can totally destroy you if you get caught up in them.

Know your blind spots and your weaknesses. Know what it is that if someone says it, you’ll be more predisposed to listen to them. Know what you are susceptible to. It’s not the messages that you disagree with that will be your undoing, it will be the messages that you want to hear.

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It’s All Cyclical

Rob Says1 Comment
Going up? Or down? Your choice.

It’s just after Thanksgiving 2020 and I want to start off by saying that I hope you all had a great Thanksgiving and a great weekend that followed it. I know I did.

That being said, let’s move on, shall we?

I’ve been intentionally absent from the internet for the most part this past “long weekend” and that mostly because I’m seeing the same things I have seen for the past couple of years.

What do I mean? “Semen retention,” which is just another way of saying “No Fap,” which is just another way of saying, “I’m not getting laid,” is going around. I guess it is November.

Guys arguing about what is or isn’t “alpha” is picking up steam again. Right before I sat down to write this post, I saw a bunch of photos that guys are calling “alpha tells” on the internet. A woman in a photo is looking up adoringly at her man? That’s alpha. The guy is leaning in and she is staring at the photographer? That’s beta.

I remember seeing this exact same shit over two years ago. The only difference today is the packaging. Not jacking off and not having sex is “semen retention” today, and green lines are being added to pictures in order to plainly show that some “chump” is clearly leaning in, which makes him a complete loser beta.

Never mind that the guys posting the pictures haven’t talked to a live woman, other than their mother’s, in years. Guess what guys? It shows. You’re only fooling yourselves with your bullshit.

I understand that new guys show up daily. There’s always some poor schmuck who just got his ass handed to him in a divorce proceeding, or he just found out his girl was banging some dude, or more than one dude, on the side. Guys getting “zeroed out” and finding their way to our corner of the internet is better than the alternative where they either do it all over again, getting the same results that they got the last time they dealt with women and relationships, or they end up putting the barrel of a gun in their mouths or hang from a noose. I’m glad that “our space” is here for those guys.

But that’s not the majority of guys in “our space.” Some of these guys have been here for years. The Red Pill isn’t supposed to be a final destination, it’s a way point in your life. It’s where you go to learn the things that your father should have told you when you were a little boy, but he either wasn’t there, or he didn’t know any better.

Thank God that Twitter has the ability to mute accounts and to mute words. I think I would have gone crazy by now if it didn’t. It gets tiring seeing the idiots post idiotic shit and then see other idiots give the original idiot a pat on the back and a digital high-five for the idiotic drivel.

Just another day in the cycle of “our space.” What was old is new again, just renamed and repackaged with a shinier veneer.

Now that I’m seeing the “alpha tells” photos coming back into circulation, I wonder what is next? I hope to God it’s guys wanting to actually learn Game and get laid. I hope it’s guys actually giving “actionable advice” instead of the LARPing that is the current fare right now.

I’m hoping for something that is old, but will be repackaged as new, but is also something of worth, instead of the usual crap of “wahmen bad!” And “Jesus is going to Save the West.”

I’m hoping for guys to genuinely help each other out instead of shaming each other because their way is “right,” and if you aren’t doing it their way, you are a fucking loser.

I have hope, but I don’t have a lot of faith. What comes around, goes around, and all of that blather. I have a feeling that what we are going to be seeing is more of the same shit that we have already been seeing, only guys will double down on it and just put a shinier bow on it.

I’m sure I’m going to be muting new accounts as they come online and I’m sure that there will be new words and phrases that I’ll be adding to my mute list as well. Idiots are gonna idiot.

In the meantime I’ll keep doing my thing. I’ll keep doing the “Rob Report” as Chest Rockwell has lovingly called it, and I’ll keep making my “rant” videos. One thing about it, I’ve definitely had some content to create because of the idiocy that I’ve seen over the last few years and I have a feeling that isn’t going to go away any time soon.

While “our space” is a circular one, at least my video editing skills and quality of videos has improved over time. There’s that at least, and I’m good with that.

Now you’ll have to excuse me, there’s a woman that I need to go see and bang.

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