Author: Rob Says

A man who loves and likes women.

Burnout.

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Every Time I Open Twitter.

The longer I stay on Twitter, the more I scroll, the more outrage I see. More and more, there is a “gender war.” Lately it’s coming from “our side.” It’s almost as bad as feminists when they go off about men.

If you haven’t noticed, especially here on my blog, I’m trying to steer clear of all of that. If you follow everything going on in the ‘Sphere and take it as gospel, then there’s no point in getting involved with women, because all they are going to do is cheat on you, take half or more of your assets, and “branch swing” on over to Chad Thundercock.

If you listen to a lot of the voices in the ‘Sphere, there’s a huge amount of women that are BPD, they are all gold-diggers, they will get knocked up by Chad and then try and pass that offspring off as yours.

And of course, every single one of these things will be your fault. Because you didn’t do the work, you didn’t lift, you didn’t eat meat, you didn’t wake up at 4 am and drink a pot of black coffee while taking a cold shower, and god forbid, you asked her a question and wanted her input about food or something; you just lost your frame. Since you don’t drive anything better than a lambo, you might as well fucking forget it.

It’s turning into fucked up guys screaming that you are a fucked up guy.

Sure the family court system is rigged against you. Sure, she could go feral, divorce rape you, take half your shit, and take your kids from you, leaving you to be nothing more than an ATM for her shopping trips. I know it happens.

Just because she could, doesn’t necessarily mean she will though. For every horrific divorce or break up that you hear about, you never hear about the divorces or break up’s where both parties parted amicably. You hardly hear about the relationships that are working out just fine, and no, these ain’t your gram’s and gramp’s relationships that have been going strong since the Stone Age. I’m talking about the 4 year relationships or the 9 year relationships. Relationships that have started during the rise of the internet or even after it.

Why is that? Because that shit doesn’t sell. That shit doesn’t get views or clicks.

“Hey Terry, how’s that relationship with Barbara working out?”

“Great Fred! We’ve been going strong now for about 6 years.”

“Well that’s just great Terry! Talk to you later.”

If guys approached each other in real life like they do online, it would look like inmates from the insane asylum had broken out.

“Billy! You know that girl you are seeing is a single mom right? She fucked up and got knocked up by Chad Thundercock and had his kid! She probably is looking for you to be her Beta Bucks! Be careful though man, those single mom’s will cheat on you with Chad’s brother Chet, and she’ll probably get knocked up by him and try to pass that bastard offspring off as yours!”

I thought the Red Pill was about understanding women’s natures, realizing that they are different than us. Different and complimentary. Not this hate shit I’m seeing all over the place.

When I filed for divorce from my ex-wife back in 2015, she could have fought me and been a bitter bitch about it. Guess what? She didn’t. She signed the papers and let me get on with my life.

When my ex-girlfriend decided she didn’t want to be in a relationship with me, she could have cleaned my house out and disappeared into the night. Guess what? She didn’t. We parted on good terms.

When either I or several of the women that I’ve been seeing over this last year realized that things weren’t working out the way that we wanted, guess what? We ended things like adults. No harm, no foul, no hard feelings. It just didn’t work is all. No drama, no threats, no bullshit. Either I called it quits or they did, but it was no big deal.

Same with many of the guys that I talk to and deal with on a regular basis in the real world. When their relationships ended for whatever reason, both parties took it on the chin and left like adults. It was so common and so un-spectacular, it was actually kind of boring.

But that’s not the majority of the talk in the ‘Sphere these days. These days it’s about the outliers becoming the average; becoming the norm. Not every woman you meet is going to be BPD. Not every woman you meet is going to be damaged goods just waiting for a paycheck, your paycheck. Not every woman has a 1000 Cock Stare. Not every woman is a complete irresponsible idiot.

It seems that with each passing day the ‘Sphere is becoming more and more polarized. It’s becoming more and more “Us vs Them.” Just like feminism. Only now it’s guys sulking and pouting and throwing their own temper tantrums and taking their ball and going home because “the game is rigged.”

I understand when a guy gets blown out of the water by a woman and his whole life gets turned upside down. I’ve been there. The hurt and the anger are real, and up to a point, they are justified. At some point you have to let that shit go and get on with your life though. Be angry for a minute for sure, but then move past it. Your hurt and anger are only a crossroads, not a final destination.

This is why I don’t get caught up in the outrage anymore, from either side. It’s not productive, at least for me. I’ve heard all the bullshit a hundred times over. Same shit, different guy. It doesn’t work for me anymore. I don’t care.

In a lot of ways, getting on to social media is no better or no different from watching the MSM. All gloom and doom. All blood and gore. All high drama and outrage. It’s all bullshit.

I saw a meme recently that said, “We used to use the internet as a way to escape the real world, now we are using the real world to escape the internet.” Something like that. It’s true though. I get on social media and see the latest outrage and then I go outside and see that there still is no spoon. Hell, I’m open-minded enough. I go looking for this outrage on the streets and wherever it is that people congregate, and I’m still not seeing it, no matter how hard I try.

Guys, stopping drinking the Kool-Aid and get off the internet for awhile, and get out of your homes for a few hours. Clear the shit from your heads.

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The Silence…

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Silence Is Hell.

[Edit: I wrote this a while back when I was going through a real rough patch. Things are much better now. -Rob]

The Silence is…Deafening.

The Silence is…Distracting.

The Silence is…Unbearable.

Not going to lie, it’s been a rough few weeks since my relationship ended. The worst part of it is the nights.

Like that cornball saying from Game of Thrones: Winter is Here. It gets dark early, the house is quiet, too quiet. I go to bed early because why not? Only to not fall asleep and stare at the ceiling.

The ringing in my ears from the silence is distracting almost to the point of madness. So a video comes on. Or a movie. Or music. Anything to shut out the sound of silence.

As I write this, the click of the keyboard on my bed is soothing. It dulls the silence. It is background noise of a sort.

I’m trying to remember what it was like to be able to sit in silence or lie down in silence and be comforted by it. To be good with the silence. I’ll get there. Eventually. I know this. It’s just not right now.

Right now silence is too silent. It’s a distraction. It’s an obstacle. It’s an adversary to me. It’s not my friend at the moment.

Too much silence at this moment in my life.

It’s kind of funny, I wake up in silence. I go to work in silence. I can’t stand listening to the radio in the morning during my commute. Too many commercials and shit music. Too much mindless babbling from the radio “personalities.”

I talk with my co-workers briefly before going out on route. I drive around in silence. I exchange brief, cordial pleasantries with the customers when I service them. Rinse and repeat.

I get back to the shop when the work is done, talk briefly. Get back into my car for the commute home in silence. I get home to a silent house. I go to the gym and listen to music while I’m there. I don’t talk to anyone for the most part because I’m there to work out, as are they.

I go back home, fix dinner in silence, and then I’ll get on Twitter or Periscope for a bit. My voice breaks the silence for however long I’m doing the social media thing.

I go to bed in silence and not fall asleep because of the silence.

And the whole process tends to repeat itself. At least for right now.

The Silence is…Hell.

I can see the “light at the end of the tunnel,” so to speak. But it feels like it’s a million miles away.

I’m tired of the silence already.

I’m tired.

I’m rambling via a keyboard so that the click of the keys breaks the silence.

I’m typing to keep on keeping on.

I’ve got this. Some way, somehow, I’ve got this.

 

I just found this in my drafts recently and debated on sharing it or not. I originally wrote this post back in March of 2019. It’s interesting finding this post and reading it, seeing where I was at and comparing it to now.

The silence is still there from time to time, but it’s rare now. I still have an occasional sleepless night, but those too, are rare.

Winter is Here, yet again, just like last year. Only this year is better, much better. All those feelings I felt a year ago, they were just feelings, and they passed with the passage of time. I went from being alone in a silent house to having multiple people show up and share time with me. If I had done the unthinkable, if I had contemplated the thing that cannot be undone, I wouldn’t be here now. I wouldn’t know the things that I know now. I wouldn’t have had all the experiences that I have had now.

I wouldn’t have the friendships that I have now. I wouldn’t have the sex and the relationships that I have now. I wouldn’t have told the stories that I’ve told and I wouldn’t have been able to listen to the stories that were told to me. I wouldn’t have seen the things I’ve seen, or visited the people and the places that I’ve visited.

A whole lifetime of stories and experiences had, and in less than a year from when I first wrote this particular post. Damn, what a wonderful world I inhabit and live in. And to think, the silence was starting to do me in. I didn’t let it, and here I am.

Don’t let it do you in either.

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Idiocracy

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There is no future, there is no past. There is only the present.

Yes I’m ripping off the movie with the same title to use as my title. It’s apt. Deal with it.

Guy goes online and talks about how marriage and kids are better than a high notch count. Same guy has a low notch count. Another guy goes online and talks about meeting an overweight woman and helping her to lose the weight, “she will be grateful.” Same guy has an overweight wife.

Both guys are fairly young, late 20’s to early 30’s if I’m correct. Both guys lack major experience. Both guys are running their mouths on the internet as if they are some sort of “authority.”

I understand that age doesn’t necessarily make or give you authority, but experience or in this case, the lack of it, does. Both guys lack experience, and yet they are lauded for it. Retweets and likes aplenty.

Welcome to Idiocracy.

When guys with little to no experience are hailed as guru’s and authorities, and guys with actual experience are either ignored or they are shouted down, you are in an idiocracy.

Want to preach the “evil’s” of a high notch count? Fine. But your notch count had better be higher than my own if I’m going to take you seriously.

Want to talk about taking a fat girl, getting her to work out and get her thin, and she’ll be “grateful” to you? Yeah, I’ve been a witness to this one personally, firsthand:

Back in 1995, I met a woman who pushed all of my attraction buttons. Height, weight, hair length, hair color, personality, she pretty much had it all. She had it going on so much, I even broke my rule of dating co-workers. I dated her and she was a co-worker. She’s also the reason that I created my own rule of not dating co-workers.

This woman had told me she had a sister, and one day we were hanging out at her house. I noticed a picture hanging on the wall. I asked her, “Is that your sister?” The picture was of a woman with brunette hair and the girl was damn near morbidly obese. My girl was blonde and thin.

“No, that’s me from a couple of years ago.”

Wait, what?

Yeah, my girl was the same girl in that picture. She had gastric bypass surgery a couple of years before. She had also had a fiance back in the day as well. When she started losing weight, she gained a lot of attention from men. Men that normally would have ignored her when she was fat. She went from invisible to being visible, and she went wild. She not only lost weight, but she ditched the fiance and started riding the carousel. I’m not criticizing her for doing it. Hell, I was a beneficiary of it. I also understand where she’s coming from. When I was younger, I was overweight and all but invisible to women. When I lost that weight and became visible, I went “hog wild” with it.

I’m getting a little off tangent here. The point I’m trying to make is that most women aren’t going to be “grateful” to a guy who helps them lose weight, they are going to ditch that guy and “trade up.” I don’t fault them for this, it’s just what happens. Does this happen all the time, every time? Of course not. I’m positive there are exceptions to the rule. My point is, do you want to risk your future happiness, your family, and your wealth on it?

Taking this guy’s advice would be a terrible idea in my opinion. He lacks experience. But hey, it’s your life, and like I always say, you get to burn.

I’m not sure which is worse, the idiot spouting his mouth off on the internet, or the followers who like and retweet the guy’s nonsense. Welcome to idiocracy.

I can understand why a lot of younger people are giving backlash to “the boomers.” Much of the world we live in and the state of affairs can be laid at the boomers feet. Also, a lot of boomer advice is outdated in today’s modern world. All I have to do is look to my own Father and his dating “advice” to see that. At the same time, don’t be so quick to throw the baby out with the bathwater. Otherwise you end up listening to people who sorely lack experience and you become the idiot.

Be careful who you listen to, in all areas of life, not just online. Be extra careful of the guys that you follow online though. Pictures, stories, even whole lives are crafted and faked. It’s easy as hell to do it. Everyone lies. Everyone deceives, even if it’s just self deception, which is the worst. Everyone is just some random asshole on the internet. Question everything they say. It’s taxing and it’s tiresome, I get it. But you need to do it. You need to look for experience over fluff and fanfare. Realize that what they are promoting is in fact, their agenda. It may work for them, but does it work for you? Realize that they have interests, but are their interests in your best interest? I would be surprised if they are. Cynical, I know. But that comes from experience.

Think for yourself. Then act. Put it into motion. Put it into play. Test it out for yourself. See what happens. That’s how you get experience. Or you can listen and follow the latest random asshole on the internet. You can like, retweet, and regurgitate his latest nonsense. You can be an idiot following another idiot. You can complete that circle.

Welcome to Idiocracy.

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